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hey BR got the notification.
I did recognize some other dbers there too.

Ok,
So I received an email from W last night in response to my cancelling the meeting.

Here it is:
I wanted to meet to discuss several things concerning the kids. I feel that we are having a problem communicating effectively. That is why I have been trying just to call instead of going back and forth via text or email, because at times things are unclear. I was going to ask you again if you would go to parental counseling, so that we can effectively communicate and parent consistently.
Obviously, D5 has been asking you questions and I am unsure of what they are and how you responded to them. It would be helpful if I knew, so that when she asks me things I give her consistent answers.
As for the email, you have been sending me personal information to my work email this whole time. The information about a school trip was about the least personal of all the emails, and that is the one you decide to send to only my home account!

Regarding things in the house, I would like the antique furniture that was passed down to me. Baking/kitchen appliances that were in the basement cabinet. As for anything else, I would really need to look. I am not sure if you moved things or what is exactly there.


Nothing about the finances or the meeting with the mediator.

So what's my response to this email???

Meet and discuss co-parenting, then bring up the finances??

Could this co-parenting thing be a way for her to take a step on working on M?
We didn't communicate well while M.

Should I go know that she has mentioned this?

I didn't expect this from her! But nothing surprises me anymore.

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Any thoughts on the meeting now Pup?


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There's nothing in her e-mail that refutes the advice to communicate with her on these issues via e-mail.

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OK,
Should I just meet with then? Discuss the children and then tlak about the finances?
Or should I go and talk about just the kids and coparenting issues?
Or just contact her through email and phone?

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OK email it is.

I really don't feel the co-parenting counselor is needed.

She needs to be more clear in if communication. I know when I email her they are specific times and dates, not just Saturday morning.
I say Saturday the 21st at 10 am.

I know of two incidents the past two weeks where SHE told something then switched it around.

I know the communication is lacking on her side more more now.


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That's just my opinion, Gr8. I'd be anxious to get Greek's, Coach's and others' opinions as well.

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Thanks Pup, I'll wait to contact her back until I hear from others.

Hopefully sooner then later.


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That is why I have been trying just to call instead of going back and forth via text or email, because at times things are unclear. I was going to ask you again if you would go to parental counseling, so that we can effectively communicate and parent consistently


"I can understand why you feel we should go to a parental counseling, I can handle communicating and parenting. If there is something on your mind then ask, I will answer unless I think it is none of your business. I agree that we need to be consistent.
I will only use your personal e-mail from now on.
Here is what I think about the furniture, household goods _________________________.
Here is my proposal on the finances __________________.
The mediator can meet on _______________ or ________________. Which day is best for you?"

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Excellent. Thanks Coach.

It touches everyting that needs to be addressed.

For her- the counseling and communication.
For me - the finances and mediator.


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