I was thinking about my upcoming meeting with W next week.
Is it wrong for me to think that, if she wanted to talk to me about R that she would try to meet me ASAP?? Especially since she knows I'm seeing OW.
Greek, I know you contact Coach through a text, did you fear he would be with a OW at all?
Puppy, what's your take on that thought?
Any others out there in this situation?
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
I guess see feel the weekend is the best time to meet. The kids are are going to a show with her mom next Saturday and staying the night there.
This frees us both up b/c the kids are either with me or with her.
If she wanted to meet ASAP then she would have to get a sitter.
She works second shift and I work 9-5.
It just seems like if she knows I'm seeing OW then she would be anxious to talk to me right away b/c of the fear of me sleeping with OW.
I'm not mind reading but would like to know what to expect.
I'll find out next week. And will be in close tune to her interactions with me leading up to the day.
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Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
No expectations helps from getting emotional. Nothing has to be decided. When in doubt, "I need some time to think about that."
Avoid using "you" statements and listen to see if she uses them on you (mind-reading or blaming).
Be totally prepared. Have a story to tell her to relax things. What will you wear? Show up after her, how will you approach her? Where will you sit? New shirt, cologne, be the first to leave. You be in control of you.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I already have the correct mind set for the meeting. If she goes into R talk I will listen and give no definitive answers.
If she goes into D talk then I will listen and respond accordingly.
As for me i will look good when I meet her.
I think I'm OK with the meeting.
What's your thoughts about her not meeting right away if it's above R talk?
If I were in her shoes I would want to meet ASAP to discuss R.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
You are making a mistake with meeting her in person...
You are opening yourself up to a big letdown. No matter how much you want to say differently, you have already tried to turn this meeting into a "she wants to reconcile talk"..
Your BEST move here is to CANCEL the meeting. YOU cancel..
Get some nads here... YOU call her up and you tell her that you have been doing some thinking.. and YOU have decided that you really don't think you need to meet and that if she has something to tell you to just say it over the phone. Tell her you are very busy...
You need HER to think that you are NOT interested in a meeting and that anything she has to say can just be said right over the phone. Here and now...
Quit playing into her drama...
IF she wants to get back together, then cancelling the meeting is even smarter for you to do. It will make her PANIC even more. If she doesn't want to get back together, then you haven't wasted YOUR VALUABLE TIME...
Men who act like you do regarding meetings and dates with a woman who has dumped then, don't get the woman back. Stop dancing to her tune, and start her dancing to YOUR TUNE..
(by the way.. good job on bringing OW into the picture. Keep her in it) Tell your WS that you don't think it would be wise to meet her because you are "kinda seeing someone".. then tell her no more...be vague... stay vague... ( I suspect she already knows)
