Last entanglement in Paris

[TRUSTING]

So far I am pleasantly surprised at the impact that this MLC has had on my kids. They will not go unscathed, but it so far is not as damaging as I thought it would be. Keeping the communication going is the key. Not bad mouthing ex is important. Going dark has kept me sane and able to handle a lot of things.

[sleeper]

While we're talking about kids...

X is becoming more and more friendly. I first noticed this after I bought the house from her in the early spring. We now text back and forth a lot, often about the kids and exchange pics via our iphones.

I kept the kids for her this afternoon while she worked as I have been doing often lately. My work schedule allows for this as hers does not. I have questioned myself about it and have decided I will do so whenever the opportunity arises because I get to spend more time with my kids. They are growing up so fast. I have bailed her out several times and they occasionally spend the night with me on her time.

She asked if I would join her and the kids for dinner when she got off work. I almost declined but reluctantly agreed. I brought the kids and met her at a resturant and the 4 of us had dinner.

DS seemed particularly manic during dinner. He is now 9 and that may be normal but I couldn't help but think he was excited because the 4 of us were together. He's that age when it's important who sits beside whom and he wanted to sit beside me in the booth.

I mentioned to her I am taking the kids out of town next weekend to a hotel that is theme oriented for kids and families. X kinda went blank as I described our plans and stayed that way for several minutes. I felt badly for her for a moment but she got over it.

The kids enjoyed our dinner together. It's amazing how well they adjust to the non-traditional situations thrown their way.

[forward]

Sleeper,
Children fantasize about their parents getting back together. I would caution you on the "dinner as a family" thing for that reason.

[forward]

Also, you might want to consider how you feel after you've been around X.

I believe that I will stay dark until I can be around X and not feel angry or sad about R any more.

I haven't had a conversation with him since about November or so. Prior to that, even.

[sleeper]

For the archives....

Last fall X mentioned she was considering going back into therapy.

A couple of months ago she said she believed our R had some dysfunctional aspects.

A few days ago she told me what happened to our D basically destroyed our marriage.






I'm tempted to find that dent in the wall where I used to beat my head. Nevermind. That was:

"A long time ago in an apartment far, far away....."

[Truegritter]

I'm tempted to find that dent in the wall where I used to beat my head. Nevermind. That was:

"A long time ago in an apartment far, far away....."

Thanks for starting my day off with a good chuckle...

[sleeper]

I think my next thread title will be:

"How weird is your sitch?"

At the slow rate I'm posting it may be years before I start a new one but here's the recent weirdness....

I've bought the house back from X but her and OMH are still living in it until the one they are building (are they the only couple building a home in the US building right now?) is finished. We have a gentleman's agreement on occupancy as there is no occupancy contract. She has been paying the mortage although it and the house are now in my name. But that's not the weird part (not to me, anyway)...

The moving date has been pushed back repeatedly and both their and my moves are dependent upon the completion of their house. So last month just before the note was due she says...

Her: "I'm in a bind for time today, can you just go by the bank "X", take out the money for the note and pay it?"

Me: "I'm still on the account?"

Her: "Yeah, you are."

Me: "Which account?"

Her: "All of them, I haven"t changed anything, take the money out of account #2."

Mind you there are a couple of personal accounts and the business account. Today at kidswap she told me I could go by and take out the money for this month's note. I can't help but wonder if OMH is on the accounts too (I doubt it) and how he might respond if he knew I was still on the accounts.

This segues with a comment she made just before marrying OMH which I found odd at the time:

"I trust OM about as much as I trust you."

I couldn't help thinking but didn't say:

"THEN WHY THE HELL ARE YOU MARRYING HIM !?!"

I've said it before and I'll say it again. It's a fine madness.

[seeking answers]

This is one of those things that make you say, WTF???

[Andabelle]

She's a weird one, alright.

[sleeper]

She initiated a hug tonight at kidswap.