Last entanglement in Paris

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Just checkin', sleeper. =)

[sleeper]

Yes I still have that "portfolio". It's in the form of an IRA so I don't look at it often, dunno what's happened to it.

X and I had an interesting convo the other day. She commented she believed there was some dysfunction in out relationship when we were married (duh?). I have suspected she is seeing a counselor since last fall because of some comments she has made. There are some issues with some of her extended family which I believe brought thoughts and therefore these comments to the surface. She went on to confirm my conclusion of a few years ago by commenting, "Everyone in my life has ripped me off except you." I took some solace from that comment as I believed that to be the case and that belief helped to shape some of my choices in all this.

[warriorshadow]

Man sleeper,
That is very cool.
You are indeed the light.
There is no other explanation for that type of comment from your
XW.
If she does start to come your way, what the hell do you do now?
I see my sitch looking that way sometime in the future and don't
see enough info on what to do. Maybe I am just not looking hard enough. Is it play it by ear? Do you have a game plan? I keep thinking far ahead like this and wonder ok then what? Is it DB
for the rest of your life? I am sorry about these questions but
you got my head moving. The counselor thing makes sense to me.
My wife makes comments similar to that once in a while after seeing the IC. Then the fog rolls back in and the alien returns.

[sleeper]

You are indeed the light.

Is that a line from a beer commercial?

If she does start to come your way, what the hell do you do now?

I seriously doubt she will come my way, so I haven't considered it.

Maybe I am just not looking hard enough. Is it play it by ear?

Warior, you may be looking too hard. In fact, if you are "looking" in any way, shape or form you are looking too hard. Those occasional glimpses of the "old" them is what makes this so mind twisting. There isn't really anything to play. They hold the entire deck. You gotta live for you, be true to yourself and do what your conscience tells you is the right thing for you.

Do you have a game plan?

No game plan other than taking care of myself and my kids and living my life. Learning to let go and do that has been easier said than done.

I keep thinking far ahead like this and wonder ok then what?

don't. You will drive yourself insane.

...the fog rolls back in.

That's because mlc has to run its course. There is nothing you can do and probably nothing she can do either (counseling) to curtail the course of this. If you have made any estimate of "how long?" (we're not supposed to make such an estimate but lets be honest, we all do), multiply it by 2.5 and you'll probably have a fairly accurate time frame.

I learned that trick from a relative who worked in the defense industry. He would take the original estimated cost of a weapons system they were building and multiply it by 2.5. The product was always much closer to the actual final cost than the original estimate .

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Sleeper, Bunch of us here are in similar time frames.

I think you're right that it is important to concentrate on ourselves and living our lives. I have found that minimizing contact w/X has been beneficial to me; I have other stuff going on now.

[sleeper]

Bunch of us here are in similar time frames.

Yes, as it has always beeen for the two of us.

I've found I can now be around her with no negative impact unless she is spewing on me which still happens although rarely.

How is your D? I have been very supprised of late to learn there are many things I thought my kids would remember but they don't (quite a blessing). They openly said today they would rather spend time with me than X. I told them that's probably because my work schedule allows me to spend time with them that X's does not allow.

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My D is OK, although I do get occasional sad questions about why our family doesn't live together. I am also in the process of getting ready to move and this seems to worry her. I have told her that in our new house, she can have a room the color she wants.

I also notice that she tries to get us together. It breaks my heart.

I need to have some conversations with her about my dating.

I think she does have some abandonment issues.

[sleeper]

I also notice that she tries to get us together. It breaks my heart.

Oh GOD, I know what you mean. DS always used to hand me the phone after talking to X. He was the youngest and it was obvious he wanted us to talk whether we did or not.

Now it is sporadic although they both occasionally do the same thing with the phone.

The funny thing is I find more and more often X is wanting to talk to me on the other end.

My kids and I really enjoy our time together. DS said today we should be filmed, our life is like a reality show, everything is fun.

BTW: I found my bi-yearly report on that "portfolio" today. It has almost rebounded to pre-2008 levels. If I had listened with resolve to myself and not allowed a broker to sway me in 1996 it would be twice what it is now.

[forward]

So Sleeper, it's that 8.6 million we discussed so long ago?

=)

[sleeper]

8.6 million is actually a fairly accurate estimate of its value.








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