All the best to you - and it sounds like all the best is already beginning.
You were a friend to me from the beginning - and still are. I am truly happy for you.
Thanks friend. And I could say the same about you. I've learned a lot from you.
Sometimes you just have to DECIDE to be happy. Sometimes, it's easier. Right now, it's just easier for me, but there will be other times when it's not that way.
One of the women I have sort of been seeing lately thinks stbxw is having some sort of nervous break down or may be questioning her sexuality. Who knows. I'm interested in (1) my kids and (2) new lady friend!!! I KNOW kids love me and new lady friend sure seems interested...a LOT. Slow and steady, but this is, FUN!
I have put some feelers out and have had coffee "dates" with a few women. More this coming week. I have been trading messages and spoken with one VERY attractive and interesting woman.
On Friday, I had coffee with a woman. Conversation was good, and I felt very in control. After leaving, within 5 minutes, she sent me a text to tell me I was very cute (her words) and fun to talk to. And, at that moment, it occurred to me that it has been a REALLY long time since I had heard that. And, it was...VERY encouraging. I'm in no hurry, but I am slowly embracing the obvious - that there are a lot of really nice, beautiful women out there who are looking for someone like me. And, I've never felt more equipped to deal with whatever comes my way.
Oh sweetie! I'm so happy to hear about that! I just knew you were too good of a catch to sit there unhappy for long. Guess it just took a good-looking gal to let you realize that, huh?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I have put some feelers out and have had coffee "dates" with a few women. More this coming week. I have been trading messages and spoken with one VERY attractive and interesting woman.
On Friday, I had coffee with a woman. Conversation was good, and I felt very in control. After leaving, within 5 minutes, she sent me a text to tell me I was very cute (her words) and fun to talk to. And, at that moment, it occurred to me that it has been a REALLY long time since I had heard that. And, it was...VERY encouraging. I'm in no hurry, but I am slowly embracing the obvious - that there are a lot of really nice, beautiful women out there who are looking for someone like me. And, I've never felt more equipped to deal with whatever comes my way.
Oh sweetie! I'm so happy to hear about that! I just knew you were too good of a catch to sit there unhappy for long. Guess it just took a good-looking gal to let you realize that, huh?
Hey Sandi!!! I think one of the things I learned here is that I had to be the one to realize I was a catch before I could be one. But, hearing I am from a woman who is very interesting certainly helps!!!!
GIMA - I am discovering the same things. There is something to be said for an LBH who tries to keep their M together as long as we have and the right people recognize the value in that type of commitment we had to our families.
I am now realizing what I have lived without for a few years now (someone who appreciates me) and it feels great to meet new people.
Who knows, I may thank OM some day! I hope things continue to go well for you.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
gima, Be assured of my prayers for you and your children tomorrow. Id STBXW still going to lead the discussion with you saying you don't want this. Or has your original plan and thinking on this changed? Good for you about the condo. My social calendar is EMPTY...how 'bout some pointers?
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
My plan has not changed. She will tell the kids, with me present. She will not tell them anything suggesting I agree with the D or that this was a joint decision.
Pointers, I don't know. Guess I was due for a break. And got one.
