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Ken I woudln't even push her for anything specific right now... Just focus on getting OM out of the way and ruining the romance... You can get her commitment a LOT EASIER when OM is out of the picture for a while... especially if its because he turns out to finally show his true colours to her and she sees him for what he is...

That should happen before you press her for marriage repair

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OK, what should I say to her?

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Ken if your wife sneaks off and won't tell you where she's going FOLLOW HER... don't give her that secret romantic escape.. RUIN IT


But Allen, wouldn't this be considered pursuit? One thing is for sure, she would be fuming mad about it.


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It's not pursuit if she knows you're doing it as infidelitus interruptus. It's only pursuit when you're tagging along after them to try to BE with them, and spend time with them.

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Exactly... you aren't pursing your marriage to be rebuilt ... that's the pursuit thats discouraged

NO PURSUING REBUILDING the MARRIAGE (no point until OM is gone)

DO PURSUE an END to the EXCITEMENT of the AFFAIR

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It's ok to INVITE your wife to rebuild so she understands your position, but no inviting her to family therapy, no giving her articles to read, no watching DR Phil with her on TV, etc.. .THAT pursuit is BAD

PROTECTING your MARRIAGE by supervising your wife's church movements IS OK

Remember, you arne't policing her, you are PROTECTING HER from OM...

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It would be easier for me to take her cell phone. Either way, she is going to turn into dracula.


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Ken just by a cell phone jammer so seh can't use the cell phone in the house

And as we have said before "Dracula" is the addiction, not her... you can't be afraid of her addiction, that is the monster you have to drive OUT of her.. which you ARE doing

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A cell phone jammer - awesome! Didn't know they existed. Where can I get one of those? I wish somebody would have told me about that before. I would have done it a long time ago.

I just checked her cell phone and OM called yesterday morning and said to her, "I love you." And she called him yesterday evening and this morning.


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any tech store should be able to order one if they dont' have one on the shelf...

I mentioned it on Optimust's forum but no I don't think I mentioned it on yours...

ebay has them too ...

http://cgi.ebay.com/Advanced-Mobile-Phon...=item2c554a71ce

Note : You need to be able to HIDE this from your WIFE... OKAY? You can't use it in FRONT Of her...

Here's a video on youtube :

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rsCDkjG9l0I

NOte I haven't watched teh video.. I am just showing you the research is tehre if you want it

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