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Marked,

Thank you for your kind words.


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Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
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hows your healing comin'?


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Cagz,

I am doing better than last week. I am just keeping my mind off the situation and focusing on the positives in my life. The kids came home from ex's on Sunday and my youngest daughter stated that OW's son is staying away from her. That is a blessing.

Ex dropped off the kids Sunday afternoon and by 5p.m. he was texting my oldest daughter about coming over to the house to pick them up for dinner that night. He has no boundaries regarding my time with the kids. Fortunately we had just eaten and my oldest daughter had homework to do.


Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
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he certainly pushes you!

glad you are doing ok. it certainly is a process isn't it. different then i ever thought it would be at this stage in the game.

glad that her son is staying away.... probably helps that you went full force on it!! seriously!!

just glad you are better..

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Exactly, I am so glad I went full force on the incident between my daughter and OW's son. It scared ex and OW to death. Not so much that they care about my daughter, but they were afraid of what other's would think of them (superficiality). It is all about how they look on the outside instead of the real truth.

Ex is getting the message from me to leave me alone. I am again dark. He would love to have me available to him to be able to vent his garbage.


Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11

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"dark" is so very very good for the lbs. i can't believe how much work it has been for me to be able to be here -- but i am there.

trying to do my own thing - like you. yours is so very very mean.

glad ur baby is safe


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Ok so this was weird. He was suppose to have the kids Wed and Thursday. He drops the girls off on Wed night and tells them he will be (you guessed it) on vacation again for 3 weeks in New York. No notice to me at all. No consideration of me at all for my schedule.

It is for the best that the kids are with me since he is so out in left field, but it just gets to me how he thinks he can just come and go like he pleases without any thought about what this means for me.


Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11

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Be sure to document that.

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ah yes... he is going backwards again T. You know the wonderful Roller Coaster. he HAS to go back to SINGLEman mindset. It is the EASIEST place to be. No responsibility land.... and he probably justifies it because he "gave you your child support."

The backwards wonderful thinking! (this is the life that I live with my x)


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Time for a new thread. JMO. FIB


Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
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