But should I message HIM and let him know that I know EVERYTHING, and tell him how uncompassionate he is being. Just let him know that what he is doing is so wrong.
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In their Effed up mind, they think this isn't adultery.. They think that because there is no penetration, it's not an affair.. it's such BS. it makes me sick!
Well her reasoning is that she was done with the marriage BEFORE she ever had an affair, and that she "just went someplace else to find what she needed, and that it could have been me because she always came to me FIRST"..
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Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
But should I message HIM and let him know that I know EVERYTHING, and tell him how uncompassionate he is being. Just let him know that what he is doing is so wrong.
I strongly suggest NOT to engage in any conversations with OM. It will fall on deaf ears. This is between you and your spouse. She has made her irresponsible choice, and now it is very important for her to experience all the natural consequences.
The advise we give is based on what we have seen work.....
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
But should I message HIM and let him know that I know EVERYTHING, and tell him how uncompassionate he is being. Just let him know that what he is doing is so wrong.
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In their Effed up mind, they think this isn't adultery.. They think that because there is no penetration, it's not an affair.. it's such BS. it makes me sick!
Well her reasoning is that she was done with the marriage BEFORE she ever had an affair, and that she "just went someplace else to find what she needed, and that it could have been me because she always came to me FIRST"..
Personally me?!? Yes I would call him out on it. I don't believe in keeping an A secret or not contacting the OP and exposing that you know. I mean,who knows, He may be mortified and embarrassd by it that maybe he won't want to have anything to do with her. She will be left all alone. That should be a nice wake up call.
I believe that a's thrive on secrecy. Once you take that away, there isn't as much thrill anymore.
BUT you have to stick to your guns and follow through.
I know others won't agree with this.
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M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
Wife is about to get home very soon. I have the message to that guy typed and ready to send. Anyone think this will be fatal, or maybe it will start the seeds of destruction in their affair?
I am going to confront her tonight. I have had 30 hours to cool down, and I am 100% calm. I actually feel VERY empowered and good. I am in a good place. Ive told all our family, and many people now know.
Any last minute tips or advice?
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Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
