I posted this in the alt to someone else... may help you, too...
I, better than anyone, can tell you this... You will have your own timeline in letting your H go. No one, or nothing, can rush it. When you do, he will either draw closer, lash out, or push farther away... And, when that day comes, you will truly have your choice. It is incredibly freeing. And, I chose to to continue to let him go. (Funny, after over TWO years of DB'ing....) Good Luck, my friend.
I'm here for you.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I'm going to be winding down here quite a bit. I'll post an update every once in awhile, but it's something I need to do, for me...
I'm forever grateful to all of you for helping to get me here. My life is on track now, and the advice I really need, appears to be more legal than real life. I have a lot of you as friends on fb, and will keep that up for a little while, as well.
Send me a hello, and read my updates, but most of all, just be well, and know that you're all very special; the ones who cared enough to really try.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
THANK YOU!! I have been reading your posts since I found these boards...(I am more of a lurker than a poster )
Speaking for all us lurkers, I cannot tell you what an INSPIRATION you are. There were days when I would log on not feeling like doing anything, and there you would be, doing 14 different things at once!! I am going to miss all that great energy you exude!
You NEVER gave up.
I believe what they say about karama...with all the good karama you have, you'll be just fine!
We are all rooting for you.
((((mindfull)))
~gardengirl
/I live in the same area as you //a town between you and Fergie ///I just had to use the slashes
M55 H55 my D31 H D30 1st met her when she was 25 M 22yrs...2nd for me, 1st for H OW 2005 mother of H daughter, came back to introduce D 1bomb 6/05 2bomb 7/08 3bomb 2/10 moved up north
Hey lady! School's out for summer which means, after my one college course (ugh, summer school!) I am free!
Don't forget to pack a bottle or two of that wine when you move because I am coming out for a visit in July! And send me pics of those cute dads you know.
I was sort of hoping for a Dorothy/Wizard of Oz goodbye (as long as I get to be the Scarecrow).
I'll miss my daily Mindfull posts, which is strange since I would already have an idea what they would be prepress. Still, it will be sad.
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/I live in the same area as you //a town between you and Fergie ///I just had to use the slashes laugh
Slashie away, gardengirl. My thread is pretty much croaked and I spend less and less time on on the forums. I'm just glad I could contribute something to the DB world, even if it was only stolen slashies.
--Fergie /Between me and Mind? //You must see a lot of us in passing
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all that great energy you exude! 
