Reading all you do every day, especially weekends, makes me feel tired and lazy! Happy b-day to D18 (soon to be 19!) Hope it's a good weekend for all of you (except H, of course).
(((Mind))) Your schedule sounds like mine! You are doing the right thing keeping H informed of the schedule.... the ball is in his court. And, as ST brought up a few posts back, you always be connected to H due to the kids, so doing the "right things" now will only be to your benefit. And of course, the kids' benefit. Hang in there!
glad to hear the tax thing won't be as bad as you think.
fyi, I would expect no response because that is what you have been doing to him, so he's going to react based on your reactions. even though it has to do with the kids. But remember, he's messed up in the head right now, and very lost. He will come out of it someday though, so it is important to not lose your cool.
hope your D has a great bday considering the circumstances, I know this is all going to be hard, but your tough, and I know you will get them all thru this.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
So, the H showed up last night... was waiting in foyer when I got in late. He was in tears, and tried to hug me.
I asked him to step away from me, and leave. This is way too little too late. He broke me down once, and, he will not be allowed back in to do it again.
I felt good.
So, this am... he showed up at S13's soccer game. And, afterward, follows us home... He comes in my office to temperature check my mood. I calmly told him..."Listen, I'm glad you want to be involved w/the boys. I don't want to be around you, SO, here's my suggestions re: splitting duties w/them this weekend..."
So, he is handling one of them for games, etc... and I'm handling the other... for today and tomorrow.
And, on Monday am if he is still here. My conversation will include... Have you retained an attorney? If so, good, here is the card of mine. Please direct all communications to him. If not, you had better soon, because if you don't file, I will. Immediately.
That's it.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
So, the H showed up last night... was waiting in foyer when I got in late. He was in tears, and tried to hug me.
WTF?
I asked him to step away from me, and leave. This is way too little too late. He broke me down once, and, he will not be allowed back in to do it again.
THIS ^
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
