MLC or not?

[Goodfight]

True,

I have been going over things all the time in my part of the M. And I know I have made mistakes. I do realize my part in it. I have even told H in the past about the things I said or done that didn't help M out at all.

Even if he wanted to try to work on things, I doubt it would happen. His family (which he cares deeply about and what they think of him), is in the middle of this mess because of his lies. Now remember they are the ones that wanted us to get married, on and on. Now they are telling H to find someone else and he will be better off. So it's like it is a battle that I will not win. H is different than other people when it comes to his family and what they think of him. Where I wouldn't care what my family thought of us trying to work things out.

Thanks True, trying to focus on me. Just wish I didn't let him push my buttons and that I didn't send that text now. But I can't take it back, the damage is done.

[Truegritter]

GF

You fell down. We all have done it and will do it again as we learn. We can talk all day on these forums and I am convinced you will never find a better place to get advice and what you need to make it through this.

The fact remains that we have to experience this stuff to learn. Oh yeah you know when you make a mistake because of what you have heard here but you still have to make it(most likely) to know why it has to be so...

I had to experience the pain of being too close to W before I learned I had to detach...

I had to experience the pain of W shutting me down to know I can't control...

I had to experience the pain of knowing details about OM before I stopped snooping...

I had to experience the loss of my W and my M to know that what she is doing is because of her own pain and not to hurt me...before I could STAND calmly and be the beacon in my M.

Everything you do that causes you pain will point you in the direction you need to go.

The pain hurts but it is also your friend and it is speaking to you if you will listen.

Be strong GF...live well out of respect for you

[Goodfight]

Do I text H and let him know that I didn't mean what I said about saving the M just for our D13, that I sent last week? Or do I just let it still lie for awhile longer?

[Cadet]

Just wish I didn't let him push my buttons and that I didn't send that text now. But I can't take it back, the damage is done.

So now you want to know if you should send him another message. Why did you write this above?

[dday101798]

Or do I just let it still lie for awhile longer?

I believe tat would be the best route.

[Goodfight]

OP, cause I don't know if he thinks I don't want this saved or not for us and kids, I texted him saying that I was only trying to save M for D13.

dday, help.....don't get what you mean. LOL Having a rough one here at work.

[Cadet]

GF

DDAY and myself were saying the same thing. DO NOT TEXT HIM!

Stop worrying about him. You are in the middle of the ocean drowning right now, you have to save yourself first.

Or do you want to drown?

[dday101798]

Stop worrying about him. You are in the middle of the ocean drowning right now, you have to save yourself first.

VERY WELL PUT!

[Goodfight]

Ok OP. Can't think straight right now for some reason. Have a lot on my mind. I've been so out of it for so long that I need so much stuff done around the house and have been thinking where the heck to start.

[Mach1]

GF.....

This really has to stop.....


And I am not talking about for your marriage either....

This needs to stop for you.....

Stop finding excuses for YOU to make yourself miserable...

Stop blaming him, meds, and all of that crap on why YOU can't get a grasp on yourself...


If you need to seek professional help, then do so.

OP is right....you are a hole in the Titanic right now, looking for enough water to go down....


Do this for you GF.....