I have to file contempt charges and do some paper work today. Yuk, does this ever end.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I'm so sorry you are having to do this, but it has to be done. It's like cagzmom said, we haven't had to go thru anything hard! ha! It does seem like it never ends!!
Trusting, He is holding the support hostage to get you to communicate w/him. It's a game w/him because he still wants to control and manipulate you. Don't walk, but run to the State for assistance in this. The more time passes, the more difficult it will be to get it all in one lump sum, etc.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I have not posted in a while. It has been a very hard last 2 weeks for me. My situation has turned very ugly I am sorry to say.
Last week Thursday, I took a day off from work to totally dedicate it to my 5 year-old daughter. We went for a walk on a bike path where she disclosed to me that she was being "inappropriately touched" by OW's 8 year old son. I won't talk about details for many reasons, but one is that it is way too painful for me.
I immediately left the bike path with my daughter and called ex. My 5 year-old then disclosed to him (over the phone) what had happened to her. I told him to come to the house immediately, but he refused stating he was afraid of me. He eventually came and I am not sorry to say I let him have it -- big time. No one abuses my child. I am no longer a stander.
Ex played down the situation, he even at one point said that my 5 year-old was lying. OW is trash and her son is a product of her. My ex brought this into my children's lives and it is unforgivable. It has now left a permanent mark on my beautiful child.
I made a official report the next day. Police were notified, child protective services, as well as my lawyer.
My daughter was interviewed yesterday and disclosed everything. The authorities were amazed at her ability to do this as well as her details. She is truly an amazing child who knows right from wrong. I thank God now that I have trained my child in "good touch, bad touch" education. As most of you know, I am a clinical social worker and I work closely with abused children. Now my child has been abused. She stated that there was only one incident. This will be the last incident.
Ex is scared to death of me. I have told him "I am his worse nightmare". The court system has placed a protective order on my child. He is not allowed to see, talk, text, email her, until the investigation is complete. The incident occurred under his supervision, so he and OW are legally responsible. They are going down.
I struggled if I would talk about this on this site, but I decided that if this could help anyone it would be worth it. The ML'er truly "dumbs down" his OW. These people are lost in many ways, and morality is one of them. Who knows what this 8 year old has been exposed to.
After the investigation with child protective services is complete, I will be going to family court to gain full custody of my child as well as to prosecute OW and ex.
I an asking for your prayers. I thought the worse was behind me. Please pray for my little girl.
Trusting
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
