I"m sorry to hear about your cat - it's a hard grieving process isn't it? I had to cry it out for weeks just to get by. yOu will.
As for the hernia, this must be bringing up so much stuff for you since you were abandoned after the c-section. I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you I can hardly believe it and I'm so impressed your H has come around now.
I hope he makes up for it this time around - if not, you know you can survive! Glad to see you popping back in on the boards.
The kitty grief hits me in waves. She was one of my first babies. H even used to dress her in a little baby sleeper (which she of course hated) years ago. We had gotten those two cats about 6 months after we moved in together, so now that they're both gone, it kind of has all this extra baggage attached to it too.
I may be underestimating the surgery, but I don't think it will be too big of a deal. I'm comparing it to my section and IMO, it seems like this will be cake provided they don't send me home with a newborn to take care of at the same time! If only I can talk the surgeon into doing a little nipping and tucking while he's there. I had two lower hernia surgeries when I was 3 (which I remember VIVIDLY!) and then my section almost 6 years ago. This is an umbilical hernia, but thanks to my 9+ lb baby, he made a mess of my stomach skin. LOL
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Freckles6, I just got done reading about your entire sitch. What an amazing story you have. Hope and inspiration is what I'm taking from it and for that I thank you.
Good luck to you with your surgery. Please post and let us know how you're doing after it.
Nothing really new to report with H and I, it's just been on my mind that 5 years ago tomorrow (actually today because it's just after midnight here now!) my H moved out. He informed me a few days prior to that (on my birthday, TYVM) he was moving and he left for good (physically at least because he was mentally gone for a while by then) on my very first mother's day.
The funny thing is that this week he actually forgot my birthday. I'm not a big birthday person anyway and hate any focus on myself like that. I know he knows when my birthday is. He's always (except for one year and it was on purpose and spiteful and I called him on it and he apologized) remembered it every other year we've been separated and had a card from S for me. I know he's been busy at work I figured he didn't know what the date was. We had even talked that day, but I didn't say anything about it.
Wed. morn. he was driving to work and heard the date on the radio and called me apologizing up and down and swearing that he'll make it up to me. it really doesn't bother me at all. My birthday and him have all this baggage now that it was kind of better it passed quietly. He proposed to me on my 25th birthday and told me he was leaving me and our 10 month old baby on my 32nd birthday. Like I said, baggage there.
He told me tonight he has "prizes" planned for Mother's Day. To make up for this week... (I admit I was thinking that forgetting my birthday was least of the things he has to make up for... LOL).
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I'm so sorry your birthday has such baggage. Those emotional memories never quite go away do they? I hope that mother's day is better and you get all the love and attention you deserve. And yes he has a lot to make up for. HOpe he starts showing it!
He did good. I got a fancy dinner he cooked last night and this morning I got breakfast in bed too! And I got Guitar Hero 5 for our Wii that I had been wanting. He said he and S were planning to pick flowers this morning but mother nature decided it was winter again and we woke up with 4 inches of snow on everything...
It was nice. My first ever real mother's day.
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We had gotten those two cats about 6 months after we moved in together, so now that they're both gone, it kind of has all this extra baggage attached to it too.
To make up for this week... (I admit I was thinking that forgetting my birthday was least of the things he has to make up for... LOL).