I can't believe the length of it! We just scheduled mediation day, and was told I shouldn't expect the day to go past 5pm.
Sounds like you handled it like the man and father you are, GIMA. And you still found compassion for your wife, in the face of it all. Staying in the house, and telling the kids will be tough, but you can handle it.
(((GIMA)))
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It sounds to me that Mrs. Gima may have come to the point that she actually realizes what she is doing. It might be a good thing. Especially since nothing really happens until you sell the house. Keep up your DB'ing efforts. You never now what might happen!
My thoughts are with you GIMA. Keep your expectations at zero and stay detached.
It sounds to me that Mrs. Gima may have come to the point that she actually realizes what she is doing. It might be a good thing. Especially since nothing really happens until you sell the house. Keep up your DB'ing efforts. You never now what might happen!
My thoughts are with you GIMA. Keep your expectations at zero and stay detached.
You will be fine.
OP,
I think you are right here, but I have NO expectation she will stray from her course. She has a strong ability to push those emotions down and not deal with them. I remain open to work on the M (for the right reasons), but do not think she will change her course.
Ok, I've finally (almost) caught up to your sitch. What a draining day the mediation must've been. Wow. I didn't envision it all happening in one session either. So, do you still call that mediation or Collaborative Divorce, since your L's were sitting there too?
I understand there must be sadness with the small relief that you're through this part. I applaud you standing up about making W tell kids with you there, and not doing it in a way you're not comfortable with.
I don't know that I have much of anything helpful to say to you- I have a feeling my H will be much like your W in that there are things he hasn't thought of til the last minute, and that is sad. I think us LBS's think much more about these issues, ironically.
Take care of yourself however you can, pamper and be gentle with yourself today and in the next several days especially.
-Alice
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
The only thing I want to say is you are good man, a good dad and we are all lucky to have you here.
Agree with this ^ , GIMA. For once, I really don't have any snarky, opinionated advice -- just one of those Sopranos-style "man-hugs," and a prayer sent up your way.
Ok, I've finally (almost) caught up to your sitch. What a draining day the mediation must've been. Wow. I didn't envision it all happening in one session either. So, do you still call that mediation or Collaborative Divorce, since your L's were sitting there too?
I understand there must be sadness with the small relief that you're through this part. I applaud you standing up about making W tell kids with you there, and not doing it in a way you're not comfortable with.
I don't know that I have much of anything helpful to say to you- I have a feeling my H will be much like your W in that there are things he hasn't thought of til the last minute, and that is sad. I think us LBS's think much more about these issues, ironically.
Take care of yourself however you can, pamper and be gentle with yourself today and in the next several days especially.
-Alice
Alice,
I think I would just call it garden variety mediation. Very expensive, but we got it done.
