Just keeping those up to speed. W and I are doing very well. As time passes I am able to relax more, which is good. There is a lot of reassuring on both sides (i.e. W asked this morning when she saw me browsing this site "We are good, aren't we?").
She did not contact OM last week when it seemed she may need to for work and I thanked her for it. She is skipping another meeting this week where he will be in attendence. So she is doing her best to keep NC.
We are still trying to sell the house. We have had quite a few showings (about 8 in the last week), but no offers.
Our MC suggested that we start seeing him less frequently (every 3 weeks). I will take that as a sign that he believes we are doing pretty well.
Hey, a little fear never killed anyone (altho I'm really just a harmless, lovable puppy).
When did I say anything about subpoening my wife's IC files? You must have me confused with someone else; the fetching Mrs. Puppy never even went to IC, until this past year??
So W just sent a heartfelt saying that she was hitting a 'rough spot' (entering a depressive state). It felt good that within the e-mail she expressed how much she loved and appreciated me. However, these are always trying times for me as well (very anxiety provoking). In the past, she would have blamed this on our marriage. She does not do that anymore, but the anxiety still comes just the same. I want to fix it; but their is very little I can do other than just listen. Any advice on what spouses can do to make depression easier to deal with would be greatly appreciated. It is hard to see my W deal with this alone.
On another note, we are getting a lot of showings for the house (about 1 a day). No offer yet, but our realator seems pretty confident.
I'd like to know how to make W depression easier to deal with as well.
All I do is try to keep telling myself that it is something out of her control, and to roll with it as well as I can. At the same time you can't let them treat you in an abusive manner; you have to call them out on it if it occurs, then walk away without engaging in arguments.
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No. W does not get angry or argumentative when depressed. She is withdrawn, does not want to engage anyone, cries and sleeps a lot. It is hard to just watch her in that state. I try to let her sleep, take the girls out, etc. And eventually it gets better; but it is still hard to see her that way.
