I just noticed you have been here even longer than me! WOW! WHY are you here on a Friday nite? I have a great glass of wine (and have had two more!)
Yeah....I'll give them a call. It's Boston College! I work in a public school, and one of our guidance counselors said that BC was really picky this year, so I'm very proud of D18!
She's such a sweet kid. It's just frustrating, cuz if we were an intact family, we could do this. SO short sighted (By the way.....I coud never live with STBX ever again. I could nver make it work....We all hav our "Chu Hoi" (don't shoot----I surrender) moment)
However....life is great! Gym woman continues to love me to death, but be frustrated by me not being divorced. I get that as well. I'd probably feel the same way. Her XH called her last night and asked if he could defer his alimony payments because....you'll love this.....ARE YOU READY??????
He's divorcing his third wife,(of 3 years!) Gym Woman was #2. He owns a huge real estate company here on the stupid east coast! He had a pre-nup and if they went beyond 2 years his "new" wife gets 400K! This is her third marriage as well, and she seems to be great at marrying and subsequently divorcing wealthy guys! An awesome cottage industry. Well, fellow Delta Bravoers, have a nice weekend. Here's a direct order to all of you:
yup...my 4 years undergrad at a nationally top ranked school cost less than 2 years at a community college....
need based scholarships
also...the top schools in the nation are doing a great program...10% of the parents income is the expected parental contribution
and
just because that is the tuition does not mean that that is what her expected contribution will be...fill out the FAFSAs which I am sure you have and see what the package result is
It would be awesome if you could set up your STBXW with gym woman's soon to be single again XH. The accounting of the flow of alimony and child support would appear like some sort of ponzi scheme.
Glad things with gym woman are good, just keep telling her it's moving along and will be done sometime this decade LOL.
I can't even imagine having the money to go to a college like that even with my intact family. My parents paid my car insurance while I was at school. I worked and went to school and took out financial aid to make up the difference.
If she wants that school bad enough, she'll do it. Just cuz you can't hand it to her on a silver platter won't hold her back. She's just gonna have to work for it like every other person who doesn't come from some rich six-digit income family.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
WARNING: CONTAINS STRONG LANGUAGE! MAY NOT BE SUITABLE FOR ALL AUDIENCES. READERS ARE ADVISED TO USE CAUTION! THIS IS AN ALL OUT, NO HOLDS BARRED RANT!
Haven’t been here for a long time, but just have to vent.
My STBX is such a controlling, manipulative individual. I really hate her with every fiber of my being. D18 just got accepted into Boston College. She’s battled back so hard from anorexia, and it was a dream of a lifetime! It’s also 51K a year!
First, I had to send amended taxes to their financial aid office, because STBX did not claim and additional $1,800 I gave her. Because it was outside of the court order, she is saying it never happened!
That cost me an additional $600 to the IRS. Today, the housing fee was due at Boston College….$500. D18 asked if STBX would pay half. She responded “I paid for the SAT Prep course”, so I can’t pay it. D18 was in tears. I have 13K in legal bills, because this has gone on for 2 years!
I wouldn’t pi&& on STBX is she was on fire! Another set-up. She told D18 that I had to be “on board” for her to go to BC. She KNOWS it’s 51K a year, and she’s just laying in ambush waiting for me to say I can’t afford it.
I don’t give a sh&t. I paid the $500 plus another $150 to UCONN where she also got accepted. UCONN is giving her 13K in financial aid out of 21K, but she has her heart set on BC. I won’t be held hostage by that bit&h!
At the end of the day, BC will not give us nearly the aide UCONN did (which is a GREAT school!) The UCONN offer is too good to pass, up, but I paid the $500 to BC just to wait and see what they might give us.
I bet it’s no more than 5K. Another case of collateral damage done by divorce. I will have to have the tough conversation with D18 that UCONN is the way to go, but in this part of the country, kids are stupidly entitled. She will do well no matter where she goes. She wants to go to medical school. I told her to put her money into a great med school, and take UCONN for all it's worth!
Yeah well, you know STBXW won't cave. That would require her to maybe sacrifice a little of her sense of entitlement (wonder where the kids got it from LMAO).
Money doesn't buy everything.
And in 10 years where she went to undergrad will be a couple lines on her resume that most people won't read. It's great that you are trying to give her every opportunity, but you have to know what you can afford. If that means she accepts student loans for the rest, then that's what it means. She'll have to make the decision.
Nothing in life gets handed to us on a platter.
The best things, we work our butts off for.
She'll have to do the same.
She'll get past all the BS with your help and guidance I'm sure.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I'll go to UCONN! Does it have a drinking hole (that accepts Canadian dollars)? What's the football team like? Do I get to live on campus or will you find me an apartment? Thanks to you FLTC I'm gonna GAL big time. Let me know when to pack! Yahoo, I'm goin' to UCONN
