GF We all have good days and bad days. Of course you`re thinking about H. You`re life has changed and you`re trying very hard to get through this without your life partner.
Don`t beat yourself up for thinking about H. Soon your good days will last longer, and bad days will come up occasionally. The better you feel, the better you can deal with H.
A technique to use is the stop sign. Whenever you`re thinking about H, imagine a stop-sign, stop, and put you`re focus back on yourself. This works if you stick with it.
GF You will have good days and bad days. Just let the feelings come and wash over you. You will regroup and feel better tommorrow. Yes replay does take a long time and when and if they wake up it does seem like it is sudden but that is why you take the focus off of h and put it back on yourself. When the day comes that your h comes home you need to be emotionally strong and healthy. You are doing great.
Don't know what's going on......having another bad day! Just when I thought I was doing good it hits and when it hits, it hits for a couple of days.
Still have not heard from H since the 24th when he said it wouldn't be a good idea to date. Prior to that, just 2 days he said he would like to and that Sundays are not good for him and he would let me know what days are good since his work schedule has changed.
Just journaling, sorry everybody but having a real rough one today!
Goodfight, I have a lot to read through here from the older threads. Will take me a while...
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
This too shall pass. Seems to me that H is in hiding. Let him come to you when he`s ready. He needs his space right now. He feels pressured by you. He does want to see you, but he`s afraid of an R talk, I think because of the dating issue.
Come here to vent or journal. We understand, you haven`t heard from H in a while. He`s confused. You`re doing great. Yes, it is hard, keep zero expectations, don`t expect anything and you won`t feel so disappointed.
Celestial, do you think that's why he wasn't answering D13's calls and texts? That's not like him to ignore her. But he didn't call her on Sat. or Sunday. And if he doesn't see her he always calls.
I didn't mean to pressure him at all, and now I feel bad that he is feeling that way. But if he does want to see me and is afraid of R talk, why doesn't he just text me and ask how I'm doing or something on that order? I know no one can get into his head. I'm hanging in as far as NC with him, I haven't contacted him since he told me a couple of days later that he changed his mind about dating and said it wouldn't be a good idea.
Why do you think that he wants to see me?
I can tell you this much, you made me feel so much better just by saying that he does want to see me!
