LIMBO NO MO!

[Gnosis]

WAW + MLC = Cuckoo HW

I know you don't want to hear this and it may sound harsh... Respect is earned not given. Maybe it's time to give it your all and take off the kid gloves. Play hardball and hold her feet to the fire. You say you're done and you're still letting her get to you.

What can you do to create a crisis with her?

FYI: GAL + 180 + PMA = GIMA

[luvless]

Yeah..she is cold as ICE and I'm sorry you have to deal with someone like this. She is really angry isn't she?

Her behavior is not shocking...aren't the walkaways supposed to do things opposite of what you'd think? I know mine is!

Perfect place for you to come to vent...hey, at least you aren't letting her see that she's upsetting you.

I know you needed to see her true colors. It just makes it easier to let them go huh?

Hugs gima - I know you've gone through so much but your attitude encourages me.

Luv

^ leave it up go Gno to give it to ya straight!

[givingitmyall]

WAW + MLC = Cuckoo HW

I know you don't want to hear this and it may sound harsh... Respect is earned not given. Maybe it's time to give it your all and take off the kid gloves. Play hardball and hold her feet to the fire. You say you're done and you're still letting her get to you.

What can you do to create a crisis with her?

FYI: GAL + 180 + PMA = GIMA

I like it Gnosis. I just don't think she cares any more.

And the emotion she exhibited tonight may have been more anger than disrespect. But, I understand your point and completely agree.

Part of the anger in her I think comes from the fact I have been virtually NC with her.

Actually pretty calm right now. Amazing how seeing what I saw tonight snapped me right out of the blues.

[givingitmyall]

Thanks luvless.

And yes, seeing her true colors has done wonders for my feeling down. Hard to feel bad about losing something you don't like anymore.

She IS angry. At what and why, who knows. Maybe the MLC talking there. And some of the early menopause.

[Gnosis]

I think you should drill it into her head that she better come to the negotiating table before you squander a small fortune that would be used to educate the kids.

They say "no confrontation" and don't do anything to anger them... I say to hell with that. Get in her face if you have to. You say she's a coward? Cool then confront her. What's she going to do? Run to her L again?

GIMA safeguard your finances. I can't remember, but I think you already did it, if you didn't then cut off all funding.

[givingitmyall]

Not worried about angering her. Anger is good. Shows she still cares about something.

I try to bring truth to her each chance I get. And she does NOT like it. So, I will keep doing it.

We have a joint checking account, and I watch it. I can't change the funding around b/c there is a standing order in D cases in my neck of the woods that says we have to maintain the status quo pending resolution by the Court. SHE is under the same order. Step out of line, and she'll be talking to the judge.

[Cadet]

She IS angry. At what and why, who knows. Maybe the MLC talking there. And some of the early menopause.

No she is not angry she is depressed! The depression comes out in the form of anger. No other way to release the depression.

And GIMA don't you understand that YOU are the cause of this depression, so she must get rid of you. (Also if you believe what I just wrote you can buy a bridge from me that goes to Brooklyn)

[givingitmyall]

OP,

I get your point and completely agree with you. It is her perception I am the cause of her unhappiness but the reality is I am not. I can't make her happy. Only she can do that.

[gucci loafer]

Actually GIMA, your wife is being quite wise in letting her lawyer handle things for her. You would be wise to let YOUR lawyer handle things for you. Is there anything stopping YOU from making an offer first?

You would be wise to stop trying to force her and pressure her (pressure does NOT work) into making decisions without her lawyer. You would be wise to drop the issue and tell your lawyer to take control here and do what he has to do. If you do that, when things don't go her way, you can use the same excuse she is using.. which is "I will have to talk to my lawyer."

[givingitmyall]

Thanks Gucci. And from here on out, what you suggest is the plan. Seeing her attitude last night was a very good thing for me to see.

And thanks for the post. I've been here a while, and I think this was your 1st post to me.