Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[Butterfly1]

Hi there - lurker here - on my thread we have been talking about baiting and walls too - so I was so glad to read your DB Coach posting. Helped me a lot, thanks. Bait=wall makes good sense to me. I'm dealing with that a lot right now and it makes sense that now that we are getting a wee bit closer (in MC) he would be making sure there's a wall...

anyhow, thanks again. I can't afford DB sessions,since H moved out, although I wish so much I could. REading your advice helped me out.

[courageous wife]

H4Love-I have lurked on you thread a time or two and am pulling for you! I wouldn't be able to afford the DB coaching sessions either but am using some inheritance money that I had in savings! Don't worry about it! Use what you find here!

[newmama]

H4Love, I am glad that reading about the coach's session helped! That's why I try to post in detail--for those who might be able to benefit from the coach's advice for their sitches but can't afford the services. I have read good info on other threads, too!
I will be checking out your thread!

[newmama]

Instead of writing up a summary on the Art of Seduction, click on this link and explore the table of contents. There is a description right there! It is divided into 2 sections: seducers and victims, then the seductive process.

http://www.amazon.com/Art-Seduction-Robe...ader_0142001198

I just saw that a concise version of Art of Seduction exists!

Here is a quote from the book about ANTI-SEDUCTION (what NOT to do):

"Seducers draw you in by the focused, individualized attention they pay to you. Anti-seducers are the opposite: insecure, self absorbed, and unable to grasp the psychology of another person, they literally repel. Anti-Seducers have no self awareness and never realize when they are pestering, imposing, talking too much. Root out anti seductive qualities in yourself, and recognize them in others--there is no pleasure or profit in dealing with the Anti-Seducer!"

Also right before the seductive process, it says "Phase one-stirring interest and desire" (plant the seed, walk away...leave them wanting more!)

[ddstartingover]

nm - trying to follow-up on a question I posted on Mindfull's thread.......because my mind is VERY open, who did your CD's??

[newmama]

OOPs I forgot to tell you! I ordered from amazon:
a book and CD:
The Self Hypnosis Diet by Steven Gurgevich, Ph D and Joy Gurgevich

[ddstartingover]

Thank you!

[newmama]

I have a good feeling today. don't know why...it is gorgeous but windy over here!

I cried today over the idea of getting a second chance on my marriage...like if that is possible I would be so grateful! This is not because I'm codependet or messed in the head or something. It isn't about what HE did or what I did. I mean just to have a second chance, regardless of why we separated, would be a gift.

[chatterbug]

were you out on a run with me today newmama... and yea... i am still here... Always got time to read up on my newmama

[newmama]

Why Cutter, were you having a good feeling today as well in your sunny but windy area? I was driving at the time although I did take S to the park earlier! I highly doubt I will ever take up running, lol! I really will get on the alt sometime-just want to put a picture up and need to get the self timer on the camera! I have tons of S and one of S and I but it's old...need a current one of S and I!

Anyway glad you are still here, Cutter- I know there aren't always things to comment on!

Like tonight. I had the music on when he arrived, the house smelled yummy, I was carrying S with me as I took the garbage out and saw WH pull up as we were outside. S smiled super big when he saw his daddy! I had made myself dinner (meatball sub) and I did have plenty left. So when H arrived I told him to help himself if he would like or I would just clean it up. He said no thank you.

I dressed up, did my hair, put on lipstick and headed out to belly dancing and got a walk in (just changed to my tennis shoes)before it started while talking to my grandma on my phone. Class was hard tonight- sooo fast! I really am a beginner and need step by step! And there were these 2 20 year olds that kept talking loudly and dominating the class with "can we do the pharoah move? Can we do the queen's camel? What about the octopus?" Grrr....Thank goodness for my DVD! I did ask some other students in the class to help me!

Well when it was over I drove around looking for a coffee place to get a decaf coffee and they were all closed! WTH? It wasn't even 9 p.m. yet!

I arrived a little after 9 and WH filled me in on S. Then he made a little chit chat and said "well I'm pretty tired so I'm going to get going" (uh whatever...he doesn't live here right now, of course he needs to get going!)

Of course as he said this, I had a magazine I was reading and was sitting in my chair and I just smiled and said "okay! Good night!"

I have been losing weight but so slowly lately...am going to amp it up and plan to lose 10 pounds by March 19, my b-day! Just pig out one day per week instead of 2 or 3 and just keep exercising like I have been! Oh and eat breakfast. I have slacked on that over the last couple of months....