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Greek #1937900 02/13/10 08:01 PM
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Greek,

I agree. We talked earlier this week and the house going on the market by march was one of the topics. All I can do is keep moving forward as if D is the result. And it IS it seems to me.


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Why don't YOU put it on the market? Now.
I am going to ask. Why. Do you think that is going to make a difference? Houses aren't selling now. My thought might be to tie the D to the sale of the house, if you want to slow down the process.


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Just did my Valentine's shopping... for the kids and myself. At least I know I'll like the iTunes gift card I bought myself! Got the kids some cool stuff too.


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Originally Posted By: Greek
Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
Oh, Greek, the house MUST be sold. We agree @ that.


Why don't YOU put it on the market? Now.



Greek,

The house is in both our names, so legally, I cannot list it without her consent. Really, I cannot sell it without her consent.

Also, as for bringing reality to her, not sure that will have any impact. She told me earlier in the week (when we talked about the house and resolving the D) that she had already been looking at townhomes in the same area - she wants to keep the school district the same for the kids.


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Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
Greek,

The house is in both our names, so legally, I cannot list it without her consent.
Then why not get started interviewing agents and brokers and giving her summaries of each discussion?


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With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
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Originally Posted By: Gardener
gima,
Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
Greek,

The house is in both our names, so legally, I cannot list it without her consent.
Then why not get started interviewing agents and brokers and giving her summaries of each discussion?



I agree guys. We have a lot of work on the house to do before we can list it. So, first things first, to work on the house.


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Happy Valentine's Day folks.

I got the kids some stuff yesterday. D6 is thrilled with the small purse I got her with treats in it. S10 still asleep - too much Olympics last night. But, he will love the hat I got him with little treats as well.

One surprise this morning. As I was making my bed, D6 brought me a new coffee cup that had hearts on it. I asked her who it was from, so D6 goes to ask W. D6: "From me and S10." Of course it was.

I am surprised W would buy something from the kids for me. I really am. I did not pick up anything similar for her, and I don't regret that decision. When we are D'd, I won't do that. So, why should now be any different? And the answer is it shouldn't.

Not going to try to figure anything out about W by her making this small gesture. Just wasted energy. End result is the same.

Chin up everyone. I can honestly say today is the first "holiday/occasion" since the bomb that has not bothered me. We will all be happy on this day as soon as we decide to.


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Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
I agree guys. We have a lot of work on the house to do before we can list it. So, first things first, to work on the house.
I should have explained: two reasons for bringing in/interviewing agents/brokers right now:

1 W may think "whoa, man's taking action! This may move along quicker than I'd like."

2 When I did my walk-thru w/broker with my to-do list firmly in hand, he eliminated a good 1/3 of it with comments such as,"Don't bother/not needed, prospects won't care, no ROI, waste of time," etc. Saved me time and $!

Also, good to read this: even more progress!
Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
Not going to try to figure anything out about W by her making this small gesture. Just wasted energy. End result is the same.
Great!

Happy Valentine's day to you, too, friend. If you didn't catch flowmom's contribution to cutter's Valentine's Day thread while you were over there, here it is:

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y9ibMj_DIzs


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With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
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Definitely no need to try to figure out why w's gesture means. I go back to appearances on this one. Here's my little bit of mind reading....."Hmm. If I get him this mug with hearts on it from the kids and he takes it to work to use then people ask him who it's from, he'll say it's from his kids but they will all know that I really bought it and then I look like a good person still."

See? I think like a woman and trust me, if she's trying to maintain appearance that is what her thought process took her to.

Have a great day!


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@ Gardener, that thought occured to me after my post. And I agree. Time to talk with the realtor.

@mishka, you may be right. But, I have no plans of ever using it. Just like I have no plans to have any of the heart shaped cake she baked and did not have any of the "special" cinnamon rolls (old tradtion) she made this am. I made myself a great omelette - high protein, no carb - gotta keep slimming down if I want to attract the "nice" women - "nice" looking and, more importantly, just plain "nice.". Her loss.

Feeling pretty strong today guys. Thanks.


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