H - 'I'm sorry for making you so sad' Me - 'Thank you, I appreciate you saying that. I have accepted all of this. It is just very sad for me and I find it very hard to talk about. I guess life is all about plan b now - whatever that may be. I'll be ok, you know me I have too much stubborn determination not to be. I'm just glad we are still friends out of this and it didn't go a different way.' H - 'Me too. I still feel very sad and sorry for what I've put you through, every day I think about it in some way. But it means a lot to me that we can still be friends. Like I said I'd find it very hard never to see you or talk to you again. I really hope the Thailand thing is a success'
I haven't replied, I'm at a loss as to what to say.
Julia it is hard, I agree. Letting go is the best thing you can do right now. Live your life for you and then everything will start to fall into place.
So I suppose the meeting went well even though he didn't jump up and say he wanted to stay married. He has moved on with the hopes you can be friends. I don't know that I am a big enough person to even think about being friends with my ex bbecause really you don't treat your friends the way he treated me.
You have so much to look forward to. Your adventure is just about to begin.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Amazing I finally know your name. Just stopping in to say hello. Haven't been here in a while. But you must know, my H doesn't even want to be friends. So, think of the positive. My divorce is coming - I see no way to be friends with a man who (like Kat said) treats me like a stranger/nonfriend. We are working on getting mediation set.
Michelle, it is good that he is paying a larger share of the costs and *so* good that Maple will be taken care of. It is also good that we are friends too Poet, it took a lot of hard work to get there and I am proud of that. In fact I was packing some stuff away and I found a list of goals that I had made to see recognise when H would finally not be pulling away from me and I actually reached most of them.
Kat, you are right that it was a positive meeting. I lost sight of that. I had no expectation that he would voice that he wanted to stay married, in fact it hadn't crossed my mind but somewhere during our conversation I think I hoped he would which is why I was upset.
MsM, I'm so sorry about your cat Great news about the poetry and I hope things go well with your old friend.
Saturday I went to a great party with Lisa, it was 40's glamour. So we got our hair and makeup done, it was a very girly afternoon and then we went out with a group of us in the evening for a meal. It was a great antidote to h stress and it was so nice to feel so glamorous. I have learnt some great make up tips! Nothing like a bit of pampering to help me when I feel down eh.
Good for you going out with Lisa. She sounds like an absolute gas to hang with. I've never heard of a 40's glamour party but I'm sure it was a blast!
The meeting with H sounds like it went well. You solved your need for a place for Maple, you layed things out in front of H that you had held back, and you got an apology out of him. That sounds like a triple win for Julia!!! YEA!!!!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Great news about the poetry and I hope things go well with your old friend. 