Man o man, this thread is just goldmine that doesn't run out.
Robx, I can say that I have followed a lot of your posts, and wished I could have gotten to the point I am at now 4 months ago. Following your (And other's) advice, I may not have wound up in the place I am now.
Not saying I am not doing ok currently, but mayhap could have busted my D rather than being in the process now.
Anyone on here that is newer to this, or needs advice, or what to look at, etc should keep your posts around for reference.
Darn good advice, and it's nice to see someone who is doing so well for himself, not necessarily for his MR!
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
Ok, just took a shower, and am snuggling in for the night. I have a problem w/this cozy setting. Now, I'm sunburned! LoL Guess certain parts didn't get any sun exposure last summer!
Seriously, again, thanks. It feels great to worry about me for a change.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I have not posted to you before but was struck by what you wrote on BOT's thread and the advice you've been giving him.
You mate, are an inspiration to all of us men on this board and an example. Thank you so much for the input you have given us over the last couple of years.
This is why:
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I would dare say that 2009 was one of the best years ever regardless of my current situation.
And even more so, this:
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I've almost considered setting up a website and writing a book on the stuff that I know that actually produces results.
That is what DBing, in the truest sense is about.
Doing what works.
Unfortunately for men and I would include myself in this at times, we are far too chickens*** sometimes to hold our nuts and do what we must do.
I just love this:
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Without honesty there is nothing and my life is too good right now to go back into a relationship/marriage that is filled with lies.
and this:
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But I can't allow lies & dishonesty back in my life, after purging that filth from my life I can pretty much guarantee you and anyone else that I won't live with that anymore and I don't want to be anyone that doesn't value me or the relationship they have with me.
Please keep posting to us RobX. You're welcome over at my thread if you have the time but I will continue to follow this one.
best,
GH31
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
Thank you Rob for posting/sharing here! I was directed to both of your threads by Gnosis. I have spent about 3 hrs (I think-haha) reading through them. I would love to be where you are at in reclaiming my raisins and see a great source in your posts of how to do so. I envy the way you have turned around your plight, and I hope it is not too late for me to do the same.
Me-32 W-29 No kids ILYBNILWY 11.20.09 Separated 01.10.10 Discovered EA 01.13.10 W admitted to PA 02.21.10 I filed for D 03.09.10
Hey Rob, Just popping by to say thanks again for your recent advice to me in the alt. I have been pondering it the last few days and between you and Gno I can feel a huge shift happening for me. I, for one, am glad that you "over-emphasize" points at times, because I know it sure got my attention and made me think long and hard about myself and my choices. And, besides... we know you're just an ol' softie on the inside... LOL
Heehee... you three (Rob, Puppy, Cutter)... just happen to be three of my favorite marshmallows... even when you are sometimes pretty crispy on the outside...LOL
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