OMG! He is a nut case! He's describing himself, not you. The projections are very strong here and it sounds like he's about to pop! He's doing everything he can to push your buttons to get you to react and respond to him. Gosh, he' worse than a 2 yr old.
Stay the course and I'm very sorry he's sending this messages through your children. What a pathetic nut case.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
My plan is to continue to stay away from him. He is tantruming unbelieveably and I am just going to sit back and watch.
Is this typical MLC stuff?
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
T I think the x is confused after all they were the ones to leave to find happiness they had the women the money the fun only problem is somehoe they didnt find the happiness instead, we got that\ it blows them away when I compare my life to my x I didnt ask for anything I only wanted hiom to return but God saw it different integrity is the way I beleive to happiness Our xh will only find it there problrn is they went the other path peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Question for you.. how do you NOT see him? I would LOVE for it to be that way but x picks up and drops off d13 every other weekend.
When he drops off he walks her to the door carrying her stuff. That I can usually pretty much avoid. BUT the arrival I have tried but can't. (meaning when he comes to get her). I think this spring/summer I will be able to be outside working on the yard..but my home doesnt' allow for "staying away". (meaning the way it is designed.)
So how have you not seen him? MAN I actually envy this!! I would LOVE TO not see him.. FOR ME.. NOT for him. (which is yet another switch in all of this!)
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Things were calm for so long, but since I went completely dark he seems to be spiraling out of control. I set it up so on the days my kids go to him, he has to pick them up at school, not the house. He drops them off at the house and my older daughter helps the younger one in the house. Ex was told last year some time to not enter the home and he has abided by it. He lets them off on the driveway and then leaves. It actually works out quite smoothly and the kids prefer it this way. They do not have to anticipate any tension.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Ex has been informed by my children that my life is going good. He also sees that last month I added a deck on the back of the house and now am working on getting the basement remodeled. He sees the trucks and the workmen.
Prior to this MLC, he thought I was helpless with this kind of stuff. My life has gone on without him and he is very confused.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
My life has gone on without him and he is very confused
Yes I'd go so far to say that my XH is actually jealous that I've moved on in my life while he has gone backwards 20 years. There is no other way that I can explain the spewing that comes every time he finds out something new about me
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
