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gima,
Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
Funny thing is it's the first time I said something to him, and in front of everyone. Not in an angry tone, but more in a calm, yet firm and direct manner that he was simply out of line. And he was. And, I said it b/c I don't care what he, or anyone else there (except my kids) think of me. I was simply using my relatively new spine I found after the bomb.Funny thing is, no one in the "family" ever really stands up to STBX FIL. But my kids were there, and I did not want them to think his behavior was acceptable. I would have said something even if the kids weren't there to be honest.
Bravo. Good stance!


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Thanks Gardener. I feel pretty good about getting through this weekend. And, I feel better than I did last week. Hope I'm coming out of the funk I was in last week.

Watching one of my favorite Westerns, The Good, The Bad and The Ugly.


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Hey GIMA, just catching up on the weekend action... nice job @ the restaurant.

Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
Watching one of my favorite Westerns, The Good, The Bad and The Ugly.

Which one is W?

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IMO, you did a fantastic job handling and difusing the situation with STBXFIL.

I am in agreement with the way you are handling your STBXW. Cordial yes, friendly.......NO WAY!

I hope this coming week is better for you in all ways GIMA. You know I'm here rooting for you!


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Ha Gnosis. Think she would be The Bad.


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Thanks Mishka. It does help to hear from folks that I'm on the right track.


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Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
Think she would be The Bad.

Are you sure? I kinda liked the bad guy in that movie wink Does she need any dental work?

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Haven't seen this in a while. I won't say W is ugly, but she is acting very ugly.


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GIMA, I hope your sons birthday went well and he had fun.

Be his rock, you are his mentor on what it is to be a man and to percervere. It is your unconditional love, strength, compassion, and wisdom that will get you and your children through this in the best way you can with the cards you all have been dealt.

It is our responsibilry to teach/mentor our chiildren to be ladies and gentlemen.
- to show them how to be Resouceful (how to find solutions to problems)
- Show them how to be Respectful
- How to build healthy and loving Relationships
= How to Regulate our/their emotions/feelings
- How to Rejoice in life/ modeling enthusiasm

You have been given two gifts every year for the last 6yrs and a gift for the last 10yrs. Congratulations on being a FATHER!

I must admit I am crying as I write this, we are so lucky to be parents!

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gima my friend. One day at a time! You can and will THRIVE through this. You are a much better man and father today because of what you are going through. Keep on, keepin' on!


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