Hey Frank, I feel your pain as well. My XW still lives in my house....that is another type of pain. It is for sale but we do not want to give it away in this market. My kid is ready for the move. It will be dificult for her when it happens but she is tougher than I thought and your kids surely are as well. You need to leaf and show your strength my friend. If your kids see a happy dad, they will be happy as well. That is my experience anyway....make new memories for them regardless of where you eventually call home.
As Bworl, Kerry, Kaini and others have said, you will get through this. Heck, March 15th is what, 6-7 weeks? That is totally DO-able...so we're starting the count down now, (is this year a leap year or did the movie title confuse me?) I want an accurate count--44 days. Let's ALL send Frank prayers and thoughts of peace, strength and honor (of course!) and impenetrability Frank. Do NOT let that woman into your head/heart or soul. Screw her, (no, DON'T!!) soooo, she's soo not worth it and as Bworl said, hard as it is to hear or feel great about, I thank GOD she has revealed her pathology NOW rather than dragging it out over years, in front of or with the kids WHILE preventing you from moving on or meeting a normal woman with normal baggage.
Also, the FC may not know what he's talking about re: the custody issue. But don't take polls anymore, if you are. Just follow your L's advice, since you trust her. Let HER tell you when it is time to accept defeat. My gut tells me that SHE feels if any of her male clients have a shot at custody, it's you. So she's going for it. GOOD!!
44 days Frank...you CAN do this. We're all here for you. ((( ))) J-
PS no frets about the professorial job. Clinical is WAY more "real world" for the students and honestly Frank, I HATED getting med opinions from "Exper witnesses" who had not been in an O.R. in 5 years but "taught" and "Lectured" the doctors who were on the front line. So, tut tut to that.
Gotta go, our beautiful dog has had 8beautiful healthy puppies. D12 said aferwards, "I NEVER want to have kids"...so I guess If you ever want to scare your d away from sex, let hert see a birth. Your d won't want to get near a boy. And maybe you can play a tape of a baby crying "WAH WAH WAH!!" all night, if you son doesn't take the hint...it's like birth control/scared straight all in one.
Take care FRANK!!! 44 days....
j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Gotta go, our beautiful dog has had 8beautiful healthy puppies. D12 said aferwards, "I NEVER want to have kids"...so I guess If you ever want to scare your d away from sex, let hert see a birth. Your d won't want to get near a boy. And maybe you can play a tape of a baby crying "WAH WAH WAH!!" all night, if you son doesn't take the hint...it's like birth control/scared straight all in one.
My oldest daughter was 12 when her little brother was born. She was present for the entire birth and she got to cut the cord. She is now 22 and still says she may never have kids! BEST BIRTH CONTROL EVER!!!!! LOL
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
Look, I'm going to the Olympics for a few days, and should see some serious skiing. Frank, The Olympic skiiers are like YOU....going down hill, to the finish line, in style and true to their form, never taking their eyes off the road in front...all so that at the end -- @the end of their grueling endeavor and years long quest/struggle, You can stand tall and say, I WENT FOR THE GOLD!! That's worth a medal. We'll address the rest as it comes.
((( hugs))) j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
