So what are yall saying, drop the girls off and hit the clubs tonight? Bail on them all together and take D8 somewhere else? Bring a date and really throw my girls into confusion?
How are yall saying to handle tonight?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Again, you missed the point. The more important question was - did that stop her?
I get the point. It didn't stop her. She was going to do what she wanted regardless of what anyone else thought or said. However, her dad did actually have an influence because she used some of his lame arguments to justify some of her decisions.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Where in hell did anybody tell you to drop off your girls and go hit the clubs?
You would not be in this position if you had set a boundary the MOMENT your W contacted you about this dinner.
I am sorry W but having a b-day dinner with your father on my night with the children is not an acceptable plan to me. Your father's blatant disrespect towards me does not result in me going out of my way to accommodate HIM or YOU on MY night with the children. Me and the kids will be at <insert restaurant here> tonight. If you care to join us to wish D8 a happy b-day please let me know by <insert date here>. PERDIOD.
Her options then become limited - respect your decision and time or not. If not then she doesn't get to eat a b-day dinner with her kid and that is a sad little consequence of divorce.
Now all of a sudden you are worried about confusing your kids?
Where in hell did anybody tell you to drop off your girls and go hit the clubs?
You would not be in this position if you had set a boundary the MOMENT your W contacted you about this dinner.
Correct. I am in this position. I will go through with it and make the best out of it I can.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Now I am a little irritated. W just texted me and asked me to call her. I texted back and said I am busy and asked whats up. W texts back and asks me to call her when I leave work because her dad wants to change plans. Great. I'm not sure I am going along with any change of plans. This should be interesting.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
D8 wants Joe's Crabshack for dinner tonight. End of story. I just can't wait to see what her dad wants to change.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
W: I very graciously agreed to accommodate you and your father on MY night with the children. The children and I will be at Joe's Crabshack at 8pm for her b-day dinner. If you care to join us you are welcome, if not I will see you when we exchange the children.
