I think "putting yourself out there" means more than going places with friends.
It means putting yourself on a new track in a healthy way.
Yes, going out w/friends is good. But it is not making your life any different other than a few hours of enjoyment and once the enjoyment is done and you go home, you are back in the same place.
I know you go out, but I don't think you are putting yourself OUT there. What is the most fun you have had in the last two weeks?
I am not sure where you are going with putting myself out there. Can you further elaborate?
Have you ever just directly answered a question without needing it to be elaborated on or clarified?
It's very passive-aggressive.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
It seems like you have difficulties making decisions for yourself.
-You want the church to tell you whether you can have another relationship. -You wear what your STBXW wants you to wear. -You won't take control of your own finances, because you think your STBXW won't like it. -You let your STBXW determine how you spend your time with YOUR daughters.
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
Have you ever just directly answered a question without needing it to be elaborated on or clarified?
It's very passive-aggressive.
If it is a yes or no question, then yes. If it is something that I am not quite following, then I ask for more clarity.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
It seems like you have difficulties making decisions for yourself.
At times with some things, yes.
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-You want the church to tell you whether you can have another relationship.
I am not looking for them to give me permission. I am looking to see if it falls within church doctrine if things go to absolute worst case scenerio. There is a difference.
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-You wear what your STBXW wants you to wear.
I try to look good for her. But I also enjoy looking good for myself.
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-You won't take control of your own finances, because you think your STBXW won't like it.
I run my own finances, but I am not looking to further separate things to a finally. If she wants it, she can pursue it. I will comply if that is what she wants. I am not moving things to a closer situation of D.
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-You let your STBXW determine how you spend your time with YOUR daughters.
No. I spend my time with my kids how I want. I take others into consideration when it comes to special times/events that are special to the girls.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
If you are really wanting to meet and chat sometime, I could meet you in Waco for a Saturday afternoon or evening which I believe would be about halfway between us. I don't have my kids next Saturday.
Up to you,
Kevin
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Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I think "putting yourself out there" means more than going places with friends.
It means putting yourself on a new track in a healthy way.
Yes, going out w/friends is good. But it is not making your life any different other than a few hours of enjoyment and once the enjoyment is done and you go home, you are back in the same place.
Umm, well, in the end, don't we always go back home after a few hours here and there or a weekend or whatever?
Kevin
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Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Yes, of course we all go home after going out. I mean you are mentally still in the same place as before you went out. I didn't mean where you were physically (at home vs. out)
Yes, of course we all go home after going out. I mean you are mentally still in the same place as before you went out. I didn't mean where you were physically (at home vs. out)
When I go home, I am no longer in the environment that was taking my mind off of things. Although I have my kids this weekend and some work to do on our business plan this weekend as well to help take my focus off of things.
Oh, and the Cowboys play the Vikings Sunday afternoon which I am totally looking forward to. I predict a Cowboys win on this one. The Cowboys have Favre's number and he knows it.
Kevin
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Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
