Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
The Cowboys look strong heading into the playoffs. But I hate playing the same team 2 weeks in a row especially when we have already swept them this season. Historically this has happened 19 times with the team who swept winning the 3rd game 12 times. However, the Cowboys have faced this at least twice before and lost the 3rd game both times.
So I have a few jitters about this playoff game. But man, they are looking good at the right time now. Our defense looks great now.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
So what are you doing today to make your life better?
Working. I don't have my girls tonight, so I will excercise and then continue my search for a better job. It doesn't look like my business team can meet tonight.
Kevin
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Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Thanks PMA. I appreciate the positive encouragement.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Is that crickets I hear chirping? So quiet in here now that we aren't talking about what's her name! Just kidding.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
I saw a cricket and stepped on it. I felt better after.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
It is my great hope for you that you really put some effort and time in reading the many books that were suggested to you regarding boundaries. I do not feel you have a good grasp and understanding about boundaries or why they are necessary. Boundaries are not about being a jerk. Far from it.
I am sorry to hear you hate yourself and don't enjoy your life. I feel you are waiting for somebody else or some outside factor to improve those areas for you. That will never happen. It has to be all you.
You have said countless times you are very weak in the area of "thinking on your feet". Now is the time to change that instead of constantly saying you simply are not good at it. Right now you are not in a place of strength to be able to think on your feet when it comes to your W. The solution? Have an arsenal of "stock answers" etched in your brain. The next time your W makes a demand or suggestion ALL you need to say is "I will have to think about that and get back to you". That is all you need to say. Period. Certainly you can memorize one line, right?
It is a tremendous journey to find happiness within. This happiness does not ride on a R, your children, a job, a new business, money, a house or any other outside factor. IMO you are seeking out "something" to give you happiness when in fact the *only* thing that can give you internal happiness is you. Only you.
Turn all this in to a positive. Choose one book about setting boundaries and read and study it until you get it. Then post about the book so everybody who has put forth the effort in reading it can engage in a discussion. The result? You will understand boundaries and we can all learn from each other.
I was really looking forward to you and I being "cheerleaders" to one another on our goal lists for 2010. To be frank, I really need a "goal partner" that is wholly and fully dedicated to working on the list each and every day.
I will be going back to school in two weeks to study law. I hope to specialize in family law. I need to complete three semesters to become a paralegal. After that I will need to complete another three semesters to earn a BS in Legal Studies. I do have a college degree although its in a different field. What will happen after that? Maybe I will take the LCATs just for giggles and see if any law school will have me, lol!
My point. I am the only one who has the power to be happy with me. I am the only one that has the power to create the future I desire. I am scared to death (in a good way) about the next few years. I will have LOTS on my plate... school, running my business so I can PAY for school and all the other things that are part of my life that I love. I have a disease that will never be cured (or it might be but I am not so sure it will be in my lifetime) but I am still going to give everything I have. I will probably stumble often and even fail from time to time but NOTHING - and I do mean NOTHING - will stop me.
You know my story so I won't bore you with it again. I went from the very bottom of hell. Putting aside the emotional issues I was a very ill woman in a physical sense from my lupus. I decided I was done living like that. I clawed my way back to the top and guess what? I am decent. I want to keep evolving but at the end of the day I like who I am.
I am also strong enough to know that during the next few years I will need support and encouragement from time to time. So will you. I will ask again... do you want to be "goal buddies" with me? I will hold up my end of the deal. Will you?
