Happy New Year GIMA! I wish you success with your plans also. And thank you for your support and encouragement the last couple days. I've been blessed by knowing you.
Trying to convey an image of I don't care what you do v. I'm angry/hurt/resentful.
Yeah, it sounds awful when trying to tell somebody that that is what one needs to do, but it is the message that most WAW's need.
You have a right to feel what you do. You've worked hard and your heart has been through hell. I think it's time for you to start taking care of "you" and really get that attitude in your mind/body that you don't care what she does and that you are going to make a new life for yourself. You gave her every opportunity and if she's crazy enough to mess it up.......then life is too short and you're going to make the most of it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
And you are correct. I do care about W and what will happen to the kids (ouch), but I can't do limboland any more. Its strange, b/c this has been a painful process, no doubt, but I am not destroyed by it - instead, I am such a better and stronger person b/c of it.
Financially, we were tight as a M'd couple, but post-D, its gonna be worse for us both for a time. I know I will bounce back, and probably quicker than her (that's not the point though).
Been reading up on narsicism. Wouldn't say W is full blown, but definitely shows tendencies.
I am watching the bowl game with S9. W is getting D6 ready for bed. She calls from the back "GIMA, can you come back here and take care of this godzilla cock roach?"
I have an unnatural fear of roaches. I send s15 after them but he doesn't do much better. LOL. I tend to stand on a kitchen chair spraying them with toxic chemicals until they are twitching then vaccum them up. EWwwwww!!!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I have an unnatural fear of roaches. I send s15 after them but he doesn't do much better. LOL. I tend to stand on a kitchen chair spraying them with toxic chemicals until they are twitching then vaccum them up. EWwwwww!!!
OK, after posting that, I feel the need to say we do not have a lot of these. But, in the southeast, it is impossoble not to have an occasional one.
And, both the kids can't stand bugs, so I don't see her convincing S9 to take care of it. And, I'm not driving to her new place to do it. So, sounds like a HER problem.
We don't get the traditional cockroaches here...we get those scary palmetto bugs. Big, Black, flying monsters that carry off small dogs and children!
Where I grew up, we had palmetto bugs, and they were scary big.
Tonight's intruder was just a garden variety bug. Unless you are my W, in which case the devil himself appeared in HER bathroom. Guess that makes me the Exorcist.
I'm from New Orleans, they don't get any bigger than that. I am quite quick with the shoe. Also, if you pour dish detergent on them, that will kill them without spreading poison around. I had to get aggressive, as when I asked my husband to do it, he would sort of lightly tap the roach, and then it would scurry away, and he would report, "I scared it." Yeah, to go lay a million eggs. So I took over, and there always seemed to be at least one shoe lying around in every room.
