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Grab your life back by the horns, GIMA! smile

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Theme is taking back control of my life.


But sweetie (and I say that with much affection in my heart),........why couldn't you take back control of your life before?


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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Originally Posted By: sandi2
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Theme is taking back control of my life.


But sweetie (and I say that with much affection in my heart),........why couldn't you take back control of your life before?



Sandi, I did before, but I don't think until early December when W changed her mind about MC ("No, I never said I'd go for reconciliation") that I was truly ready to walk from the "M."

So what took me so long? Maybe misplaced hope that W would choose to work on the M. Maybe a sense of obligation to try everything I could before giving up on keeping my family together. Don't know. It just did.

But for the intervening Holidays, I would have been on this path in mid December.


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Good day. Nothing earth shattering, just that I feel good about where I am going.

Came home tonight and got in a great workout. Then home, showered and watched the bowl game with S9.

W tried talking to me a little, and I was polite, but did not engage her in conversation. Not mad, just don't have much to say to her.

Got some great new books I ordered online. "The Way of the Superior Man," "Crucial Conversations" and "Crucial Confrontations." Looking forward to tearing through them.


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Happy New Year, GIMA. I know it will be different for you this year, but hopefully better. Thank you for all your support and wisdom this year, my friend.


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Originally Posted By: Hope4Luv
Happy New Year, GIMA. I know it will be different for you this year, but hopefully better. Thank you for all your support and wisdom this year, my friend.


Happy New Year to you too Hope. I know that 2010 will be a better year for all of us here. It's just up to us to make it so.

And thank you for your support and input as well. I really appreciate it.


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W tried talking to me a little, and I was polite, but did not engage her in conversation. Not mad, just don't have much to say to her.


That's the way to do it!


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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Yes gl Gima and to all !!


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Originally Posted By: sandi2
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W tried talking to me a little, and I was polite, but did not engage her in conversation. Not mad, just don't have much to say to her.


That's the way to do it!



Thanks Sandi. Haven't really had much to post about.

I've been trying to be distant, but in a very non-emotional way. Trying to convey an image of I don't care what you do v. I'm angry/hurt/resentful.


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Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
I've been trying to be distant, but in a very non-emotional way. Trying to convey an image of I don't care what you do v. I'm angry/hurt/resentful.
Good job. The next, important stage of detachment.
Strength to you and success with the plans you're formulating.
Happy/different/better New Year to you.


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With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
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