Merry Christmas buddy!!! Today is all about the kids. I've been up since 6:00 a.m. unwrapping gifts. We're off to the in-laws for lunch/dinner. Today will be a good day.
Best Wishes, LFH
ME: 38 W: 35 D2.5 and S5 Married 12 years Separated (same house, different rooms) INILWYAM by W: 4/16/2009 The day W requested a D: 4/17/2009
Merry Christmas buddy!!! Today is all about the kids. I've been up since 6:00 a.m. unwrapping gifts. We're off to the in-laws for lunch/dinner. Today will be a good day.
Best Wishes, LFH
Merry Christmas to you too! Just finished opening presents with the kids. So great to see how excited they get. Doesn't get any better than that.
My in-laws are here. My W's step brother and his GF will get here after lunch, so another round of present opening.
Today has been a little harder than I thought it would be. No blow ups or anything, but it is difficult being around my W and "pretending" all is well, when everyone knows it isn't. Her parents are no different than in years past - what are they supposed to do really? Can't blame them, and I'm sure this isn't the easiest for them either.
Oopened presents with the kids, W and in-laws this morning. I bought several nice cast iron cake molds for W (she is BIG into cake baking and decorating) - all these presents were from the kids. I got a set of basting brushes. WTF? Not to sound unappreciative, but, dam*, maybe something a little more than an impulse buy you saw waiting in line at a hardware store. No matter, today isn't about that anyway.
W's step brother and his GF came by this afternoon. I spent most of my time outside to give them space (and me space) and to cook the turkey. When they were getting ready to leave, W's brother's GF made a point to walk across the room to me and gave me a big hug. I let go when you normally would, but she didn't. She told me she and W's brother (who's W up and left him right before Christmas a few years ago) had been thinking about me "a lot." I told her thanks and made small talk with her. That small gesture out of nowhere and from someone I don't know very well, meant so much to me. Not that anyone can change what will happen, but just someone who says in essence, I understand and I feel for you is uplifting.
I don't have any bad feelings for my anyone in my W's family, but for the first time since we were M'd, I really missed being around some of MY family (apart from my kids). I was talking to one of my uncles today, and he said he wished I could have been with them (about 4 hours away). I told him I knew that next year, no matter what, things would be better. And they will.
It has been a difficult, but not impossible, day. Right now, I just want to get all of the hard stuff done so I can get on with my life. Sorry guys. I don't mean to sound negative - I'm not.
Well, in-laws have shoved off. Unusually, MIL, who usually hugs me when she leaves, shook my hand tonight. I cannot remember her ever doing that. Oh well.
Feeling pretty distant from W. But, I will be fine. Just glad today is almost over.
