K4D It's a Wonderful Life

[Startingover2]

Kevin..I really hope you continue to go to AA. If the drinking has been a real problem it will creep back again if you don't constantly stay on top of it.

I do agree with the others. Let her go. Get along with her and be civil. I need to do the same thing. Not jump at a crumb and think its some sort of sign.

[K4D]

"My goal isn't to move on and find someone else, it is to move on and find MYSELF."

I am trying to find myself. I am trying to think about how to put things into place for myself. I know it isn't quite as seen on here because I don't often talk about it so much as I do about the M. This site isn't really about what I am doing in my evenings with people or whom I may be with helping or what I am doing as far as where I may eat out or what time I excercised or how much painting I did at the church or what is the best road to get back into further education that I am looking at and when I may be able to start it once I have that info, etc.

This site is about M, so when I post here, it is more often about the M than anything else that I have going on.

Kevin

[K4D]

I have more than enough going on in my life when I am away from work that keeps me busy.

Kevin

[K4D]

I guess it seems like yall think I have nothing else going on in my life other than thinking about my W. That is so not the case.

Kevin

[Drew]

Let me try a different tack ....

You're right, this site is about your marriage. That's what you should be posting about. But what we read and hear is a lot of "if I do this, we'll inch closer to getting back together, but if I do that, we'll be closer to divorcing." It's your thought process and motivation we're trying to get you to recognize. Because unless you're different than 98% of the rest of the world, that's how you're going to talk and interact with her.

And she'll see right through it.

[CityGirl]

When you fly in a plane the safety instructions say to help yourself should the oxygen masks drop down THEN help the people around you.

Basic.

To me, busting a divorce requires you to "bust" yourself first. So far you haven't "busted" Kevin. You first, marriage second.

[volleydog]

Is this what you see since you are a recruiter?

No...A company isn't going to pay me for someone with no PM experience and just a cert...That's not to say a company wouldn't take a chance on their own...I know you know this but there is a big difference between a BA and a PM, some will try and turn their BA experience into PM on their resume, this is very easy to spot...Not saying you would do this at all

[K4D]

No...A company isn't going to pay me for someone with no PM experience and just a cert...That's not to say a company wouldn't take a chance on their own...I know you know this but there is a big difference between a BA and a PM, some will try and turn their BA experience into PM on their resume, this is very easy to spot...Not saying you would do this at all

No, I wouldn't do that. I won't lie on my resume. I am just looking to see if proof of some actual completion of course work would help me out further than just saying I have some past experience and studied up on some books. I know with the BA this could help out further. But I wasn't totally sure on the PMP cert. You may have just helped me out there as far as direction goes.

I appreciate it.

Kevin

[K4D]

Ugg...

Here is the conversation my BIL had with me. He is pretty high up in his organization and has been both a BA and Project Manager. His responses are frusturating. I am not exactly loaded with contacts.


From me to BIL,

I have about 4k in a 401k plan. I am thinking about pulling it and
getting either a pmp certification or BA certification.

Wise move or not. And if wise, which would be better to get? I need to do something to improve my career.

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From BIL to me,

Get a perm position and then get the company to pay for the
certification.

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From me to BIL,

No guarantees either of those will happen anytime soon. I don't see the benefit in continuing to put it off if I have a way to get it. My hope is that it will allow me to do just that in getting a permanent job and career that is better. It would have to help in my prospects. The question really is which one is better to pursue. I wonder if the project management cert would be better career wise.

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From BIL to me,

don't think I would pay for either.

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From me to BIL,

OK. Well thanks for the input. A recruiter that I talked to said a BA cert has a much better chance of being tried by a company than a pmp cert with not much background to go along with it.

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From BIL to me,

Tells me the PMP means nothing without the experience which in the end means the experience is what is important. I don't know to many people that look for a BA cert when hiring for that role, but it may be that certain industries or companies like the BA cert. Seems I recall that being something much newer than the PMP certification, but again people are going to look for experience. If you want to be a BA get a BA job that requires the level of experience you have and build on your experience. Along the way, if you can get the cert fine, but if you're good, the cert won't matter.

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From me to BIL,

That is the problem is getting one. I am trying to figure out how to improve those chances and doing nothing to add to those chances is not very helpful.

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From BIL to me,

It comes down to first and for most, who you know, and second, how well you interview. That is 99% of landing the specific job.

[K4D]

VD,

Your thoughts?

Kevin