C, You are not being stupid, you are being human. It's very difficult this time of year for those who are going through this mess and then have to deal w/being alone on Christmas Day. Do you have family close by? What about friends? I think you need to come up with a plan for the day and stick to it. Please do not sit home alone....that's not good!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
trying to figure out a plan snod. truthfully i am ok with being alone. i get to be with my kids in the morning - get to have them Christmas Eve... being with other families on the day..well to be honest i am just not sure that would bring any joy.
i am contemplating and thinking.. i LOVE rest so the thought of that is truthfully a bit enticing. I dont know what to expect or do...
Trusting this is ur thread not mine... More about YOU !! my x is hiding away as well... tonight on my drive home I did not have well wishes for him -- many thoughts that were not to nice..
hmm that i will continue on my thread
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Just a little incite into the ML'ers world that I was privy to last night.
My kids will say very little about ex to me. I don't ask any questions, I figure if they want to say something they will. I just try to be a good example to them and help them with ex if they ask.
Anyway, my father picked up my 2 girls yesterday from school and my 15 year-old wanted to share some things about ex with my father.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
She said his new house that he bought is a complete dump. Even though he makes lots of money he is in so much debt that this is all he could afford. It is a foreclosure that he bought that had been sitting on the market for 5 years. He has to do a lot of work and apparently it is not working out like he planned.
He still insists that the kids not give me his address because he is embarrassed. Which by the way is against state law.
Ex and OW fight like crazy. She wants, wants, wants, and he is having a hard time keeping up with her needs.
She is demanding that he provide for her like he provided for me.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
He is not able to do this due to having to pay child support as well as all his credit card debt.
He continues to lose weight and is losing his hair and not sleeping at all.
He is nothing short of miserable.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
It's always interesting to hear what's really going on their world. Goes to show that life is not peachy-keen on the other side. Once the OW's true colors start showing, it will bring out the worst in your ex-H.
I always get a sense of satisfaction when the script is being followed in the OW saga.
T I'm right behind you. My XHs new house (according to D14) smells of old people! It was empty for a while too (not sure how long) and when they first moved in none of the radiators worked. It was particularly cold here that week.
My mother asked D14 if she liked her new bedroom and was told it needed a lot doing to it. My mother said 'I'm sure your Dad will sort it pretty quickly for you' to which D14 replied 'I doubt it they have no money'
If you remember I sent XH an email reminding him that legally he had to tell me where my S17 is living. He chose to ignore that email and so I had to ask S17 himself.
'The script' is a very apt phrase. Did you ever read the book of the same title? Very interesting
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Even though they hide their misery, it is apparent to the children what the true deal is. This takes time though.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
my x is hiding away as well... tonight on my drive home I did not have well wishes for him -- many thoughts that were not to nice..