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Because she wants to see that you're moving on, and that you're going to be okay.

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Isn't that evident by the fact I am in my own place and have been?

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Because she wants to see that you're moving on, and that you're going to be okay.

Puppy


Isn't that evident by the fact I am in my own place and have been?

Kevin


to a very small degree ...but not really though

expand your thinking K4D .. 'moving on & being ok' has so very little to do with you being in your own place and limitting contact with her. It has plenty to do with identifying troubling behaviors in yourself and sheer unhealthiness and growth blockers and making concrete new choices with results for YOURSELF.

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Because she wants to see that you're moving on, and that you're going to be okay.

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Isn't that evident by the fact I am in my own place and have been?

Kevin


Yes, but isn't your lease up for renewal? Much of your stance towards her still has been conveying "neediness" (no need to rehash all that here; just sayin'). I'm sure she cares for you, and wants to know if you're starting to move on emotionally, in my opinion.

It's part of the whole "normalization" thing.

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Kev..you and I need to work on our "neediness". LOL J/K


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Kev..you and I need to work on our "neediness". LOL J/K


or are U??


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question for you K4D, why is it that you list in your profile "WS: 35 Alcoholic and Rx abuser"

Her faults get highlighted and broadcast huh? Why???

just noticed that, when did you make that add-on? Why? Seems kind of inappropriate or some other bad adjrctive to me!

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also ..more to the point.. it is rather unbalanced since you are just listed as "Me".

Things that make me go hmmm


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my total bad ..., don't I feel like a schmuckk. those comments could better be aimed at SO2, since it is in her profile.

Rough day, litterally in the skies. My mind is still a blurr. My apologies.

Won't be so quick to type without engage my turbulence shaken brain.


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however, I will keep plenty of lumber nearby K4D. I hope to not have to use it butttt ......please don't tempt me. I and other's are here to keep you from slipping up or something.

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Tomato: yes that is in my profile. Why? Because its a huge part of the dynamics of our relationship. Sorry if it offended you.


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