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So you enjoyed some companionship . . . it isn't the end of the world. Its amazing that women actually might want what your wife so casually threw away isn't it?

You aren't ready to be in another relationship. Finish this one first. Does your wife plan of divorcing you? If so why hasn't she filed? How long are you going to sit and wait for this mess of a human to make up her mind? How many men has she slept with now?


I'm a man . . .
But I can change . . .
If I have to . . .
I guess . . .

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How's those AA meetings going? Do you still not see the addictive pattern here???

Sex, Drugs and Rock and Roll. Which ones your fix today?

Come on dude. You got to know this stuff already. Even a blind squirrel finds a nut every once in awhile. You should be tripping all over them. Considering how many we have ALL laid out for you to find.

Yes. Please take time to reflect on all this stuff. The only person you should be thinking about have a relationship with is yourself. How's Kevin feeling today. It's time to start a LOVE AFFAIR with yourself wink Are you worth it? Then go to your damn meetings!!!




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Its amazing that women actually might want what your wife so casually threw away isn't it?


Stunning isn't it.

PMA, I have backed off on the meetings again. I am just going to C at this point. I am making friends to be part of and I enjoy my time with them. Work is killing me these days only in that we are swamped more often than not and it is requiring more late hours lately.

When I am not going to my C or my priest, I am doing things with friends. Pretty much I am not spending much time at home unless my kids are with me. I am staying busy for the most part.

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Ok, everyone can throw their hands in the air in disgust now.

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So is THAT why you took off the "Standing" quote from your signature line.

Quite honestly Kevin, I don't think any of us are surprised. You are addicted to being needed by another woman as much as you try to deny it.

It's no big thing. It's just who you are. Just don't be surprised if you crash and burn again after getting another R.


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SM, Not confused. Just struggled lately and caved and pursued a path I shouldn't have. I kept it quiet. But I am not pursuing it anymore.

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good for you. and you should pursue it. Its called life, Kevin. Live it.

pursuing your wife is a dead end and if you havent noticed as you have been waiting for her you have been going to hell in a handbasket. why are you so dead set on punishing yourself?

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pursuing your wife is a dead end and if you havent noticed as you have been waiting for her you have been going to hell in a handbasket. why are you so dead set on punishing yourself?


I do feel like I have been through hell. I'm not sure why I am so deadset on punishing myself. I guess because of my concious.

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W is bailing on the birthday dinner for D11 tonight. She says she has a headache and wants to be ready for six flags tomorrow for the kids. So it will just be me and D11 and D7 tonight eating where D11 wants to eat.

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W is bailing on the birthday dinner for D11 tonight. She says she has a headache and wants to be ready for six flags tomorrow for the kids. So it will just be me and D11 and D7 tonight eating where D11 wants to eat.

Kevin

Great, as its about D11 - this is HER day!! Treat her to something special and spend quality time with the girls tonight smile


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Wow...gone for a few hours and another 4 pages on this thread! You are truly lucky Kevin. I have 3 steady people that post on mine, but thats it...Hint Hint everyone! smile

Anyway, someone brought up something that caught my attention...your AA and addictive personality. The best gift you can give yourself is to stand alone. People on my thread call my exh a rollercoaster and quick to decisions...even bad ones. He is into instant gratification. Goes from woman to woman..cannot be alone. He hasn't been alone once since we split up. I wonder what his life would be like if he was alone and he had to make it on his own? He is also an alcoholic, but not in recovery like you.

Take this time and work on you! I think that is much sexier than a guy who needs a woman.


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