I just noticed you changed the subject of my thread. Probably fitting.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
You need to understand in your body, soul and spirit, you can make it. Regardless of all your problems that you are going through right now, God will take care of you. Believe it and thank the Lord daily that He is in complete control of your life! "Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall." Psalm 55:22
Me-44 WAW-42 (ILYBNILWY) S-16 S-14 M-10/17/1992 T23 Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09 Me stronger and happier everyday!
I just noticed you changed the subject of my thread. Probably fitting.
Kevin
Somehow the subject matter was blank and would not let me post without a topic. And I actually thought Detachment was what we were discussing, or trying to. So though it was accidental, now it seems oddly appropriate.
So, do you want to be here in 5 years, (or 15) doing the same old swinging from sadness/to anger/to superficial-temporary detachment/to a backslide/to a long scriptural post/& then START ALL OVER crazy cyclical routine? God, I hope not. But I fear you will remain here, b/c...well, why wouldn't you?
Don't answer. Instead for now, why not re-read the old posts so many people have sent you that struck you as on point? THINK LONG AND HARD ABOUT THEM...those underlying issues that re-surface so often...
K4, how long before you fix whatever prevented you from being happy in the first place? You've spent so much of your 35 years in an unhappy mode.
No one "makes us happy"...if others were truly responsible for how we feel and live, then your w could say "K did not "MAKE ME HAPPY" so I HAD TO LEAVE --no choice--b/c only OM can MAKE ME HAPPY"...
You get angry at the choices she has made...Yet you actually said you "can't be happy without her", but Free will goes both ways Kevin.You both are in charge of your choices & always have been. You choose to be stuck, whether by default--NOT choosing, or by second guessing yourself, or reversing course, or being paralyzed by fear of making the wrong move. So stop that.
Plus, to be fair to others who post for answers/guidance, perhaps you should take a step back and re-read where you were and whether you thought you'd still be here way back when. Read what we said 6, 9 and 11 months ago and what you said...(Maybe others will benefit by doing the same thing here or on their own threads. It's a good check now and then). So see how you feel after that. You might be moved to cry or yell or scream -but then maybe, just maybe you might....change and DETACH!! j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I guess asking W for a bit of a thanksgiving ML session is out of the question. It would probably piss off OM if he is still in the picture. Although, it could be worth asking just to piss him off. The problem is it would probably piss off my W to.
I just don't understand it. What could be so bad about a thanksgiving quickie with the W? I would be thankful for it.
Kevin
Last edited by K4D; 11/24/0908:12 PM.
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I guess asking W for a bit of a thanksgiving ML session is out of the question.
[...]
I just don't understand it. What could be so bad about a thanksgiving quickie with the W?
Um, last time I checked your wife was considering getting a restraining order on you because you wouldn't leave her alone. And you think this is funny?
When you're ready to discuss your marriage like an adult, let us know.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Just tried to insert a bit of humor for the holidays. My bad.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
R u retarded? Sorry that was rude. But, seriously r u? Because that would explain a lot.
Even in jest, not responding with a simple thank you to both 25 and CG or any other comprehensive response would have been good.
Your response reminded me of Michael Keaton's character in Multiplicity. "I want pizza..." Just like CG said. How predictable. Seriously!?! I'm about to go off on a Dennis Miller rant...
Ok, bad taste. I apologize. Geez. It is the holidays. Lighten up.
I won't bring it up again.
Thanks 25 and CG by the way.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
