Newbie (again)

[dday101798]

More of the same, S11 went to take his shower, but there was no shampoo, so he was left caughing all over the house on the phone, with soaking wet heair and no prupose for it. Complains of his living conditions, and "they" say he is moving downstate, and can't say anything about it because he is not 14. Umm, reality check, in IL, you have a voice at 8, dumbf$cks.

S11 agreed to see a C. He needs it. He kept complaining of what "they" and OM say about him. I told he needn't listen to a word OM says. S11 said, I know, I have 2 parents, not 3.

I need to go to bed, clear my had and be ready for tomorrow. S11 asked if he could come here over the weekend, I said of cours, as long as mom agrees. He wanted me to come get him then, I said I would if I could in 20 minutes (it's nearly 40 away).

This is bullsh!t!!!!!!!!

But, i rant it here, instead of elsewhere, and I'm certain although I don't know how, XW reads this, and it's ok if you do, becasue guess what: you know the person I CAN be when those I love are hurting. Keep the hell out of my way, I'm 10 times stronger then you ever knew me to be capable of.

[dday101798]

For what it's worth, I read him the serenity prayer I now carry in my wallet 3 times over.

At his request.

[mishka422]

Oh Dylan, your poor baby. That sounds like he is having some serious anger issues with his situation. He definitely needs a C and an advocate.

He's 11 but he's on that cusp of being a child and being a teen. Is he afraid to approach a C at school who could actually contact child services on his behalf? Have you considered calling them yourself to investigate?

[dday101798]

Have you considered calling them yourself to investigate?

After these calls, I'm ready to launch everything in my arsenal, but, left it with the fact without delacring an all out nuclear holucost, there isn't much I can do. However, speaking to soemone, he can open doors to much more "civil" possibilities. I simply can not believe for half a nano-second that XW would be bumping EXTERME uglies with OM for everyone to see, including our children for heaven's sake.

I really need to clear my head and sleep.

[mishka422]

I can't imagine that is happening either. No mother in her right mind and with half an ounce of decency would decline to shut the damn door.

Give it some time and let it even out. When are you picking them up?

[dday101798]

So, I cleared my head, slept on it and took actionthis morning. I emailed his homeroom teacher without much detail that S11 is upset abou this grades, possibly getting excluded from school for not having a physical, his living conditions, and speaking of running away and to contact me immediately should he not arrive at school and a notice of absense call be made from XW. I also said I will arrange for C outside of school, but in the mean time since he was in agreeance last night, he should speak wtih someone as soon as possible.

The teacher replied almost instantly. Thanking me for contacting her as she was getting concerned too. Apparently XW has in fact stuck her nose inbetween me and the school, and that is a straight up violation of court order without question. She said she will contact the couselor (actually cc'd him in her reply). This was before I left for work late so I could be in the area around the time school starts in case he came up 'missing'.

When I got to work, I checked my e-mail, S11 had gone straight to the counselors office first thing in the morning, I think voluntarily from the sound of it. He also is in fact going to be excluded from school, nice, how friggen lazy can you be? He' been to the "doctor" 2 times in the last 4 weeks for a persistant cough he can't shake, and yet, this couldn't get done?? wtf?

I just hope he doesn't get like me and clam up. I didn't push him to go, but told him of how I am seeing a C now, but it's too late for me to fix my issues with what happened in my childhood, but he can make a difference for himself. I guess he listened I love my mini-me. {typed with watering eyes}

[dday101798]

Oh yeah, and now to prepare for the back-lash from XW

2 words hon:

bring it!

[karen43]

D, I'm glad to hear your son is getting help. If they aren't able to help him though, I hope you will consider reporting your X to child services. It sounds like if nothing else, S11 is being emotionally abused and who knows what else from the comments he made. The whole "if you knew what's been going on" comment worries me.

I think it's a really good thing he has you to confide in and help him out. I'm sure a lot of kids don't have that, and then what happens....

[dday101798]

The whole "if you knew what's been going on" comment worries me.

I know, me too, that's why since he agreed to see a counselor, I jumped on it immediately before he reverts.
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DAMNIT!!!! He denied everything. Score another one for XW

How in the hell can I help this kid? When everytime I do as he asks, he goes and does the complete opposite and says everything is hunky-dory. I am beside myself, seriously beside myself.

[kat727]

They want to protect their parent, doesn't matter that she doesn't care about protecting them. So they will tell you the truth to have you get them out of there. What they don't realize is that they need to notify a neutral party if they want change to happen.

Hang in there.

kat