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Thanks for asking.
Ex looked horrible, tired, withdrawn, lost weight, dyed his hair a real ugly rust color.

Judge threw the case out because he did not correctly serve me.
Ex seemed confused, lost, playing the victim.
His arrogance and cockiness was no where to be seen.


Me: 46 H:44
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Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
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So do you have to go through this ordeal again or will it depend upon XH going through the motions again?


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It was rescheduled for November 09. I really believe my ex will be the type of Ml'er that is constantly taking me back and forth to court. He seems to thrive on the drama. I basically ignored him today and acted all business, no small talk. My father came with me and did the same.

The weird part of all this is that my ex is making more money than ever and asking to reduce my child support.


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Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
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Trusting I feel for you, if you remember my ex also took me to court, he showed up on the first hearing, looked just like your ex, mine also hid behind a concrete pillar so I couldnt see him, but I did, everything that his lawyer said in court was a total lie, good job he didnt have to swear on oath, the case also got postponed, ex didnt turn up to that hearing, since speaking to him of late he says that myself and son wouldnt of ended up in a hostel, but that was the way it was going at the time and that is what he was pushing us into, I dont know Trusting it all still baffles me, good luck with your case honey. My ex was also earning mega money plus what he had inherited from his fathers house and threw us in the courtroom to get us out of the home as he couldnt afford for us to stay there, and yet to this day 2 years later the family home is still sat there empty, total madness is this mlc total madness

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Well, Trusting, at least you do not have the arrogance for a while.

It is hard to muster compassion for these people when they have caused so much damage. Forgiveness is very difficult.


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
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Mandy,
Thanks for sharing what happened to you. Do you think your situation is getting any better?

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Yes, I am so glad not to see the complete arrogance. I am not sure though that he was not acting so the judge would just feel sorry for him. He is a total manipulator.


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Married: 20 years
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ex asked for forgiveness
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i am sorry for the drama - glad to hear u were watched over by the judge.

i agree with u about ur x and the drama. makes u wonder if it is the loss of control that they have in thier own lives that cause them to be so stupid and do such stupid things!!

i have noticed with ur x taht he uses whatever "tactic" or side of himself to get whatever it is that he wants. i love that your father could be there with you -- and i am sorry that you had to deal with any of this garbage AGAIN!!

stay strong and keep moving my friend!!


M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06
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D final 7/30/2008
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Trusting I wouldnt say my situation is getting any better, what I would say is that I have come to a part in my life where I have moved on and live my life for what I have now, it is hard I do still think about ex and what he as done quite frequently, also as he is now back in contact with son I see him more and speak to him more than I have done in all this, his nastiness and arrogance seems to have gone for now, and we speak like old friends, I hold no hope though, he as made his bed so to speak. also a quick not on our court appearance is the fact that ex gets his suit on and looks the part whenever he is on important business, I fully expected him looking the part that day, he turned up like the village tramp, a pair of jeans and an old shirt that I bought him years ago, whether that was to appear as if he was broke or the fact he new I fancied the arse of him in his suit I dont know, but it just wasnt him to not turn up smart to an occasion like that
, like i say Trusting, madness sheer madness

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I could not agree more, it is madness.

Preparing now for the 9th of November. I am going to ask the judge if the court could order psychiatric help for my ex.
It is so clear he is confused and lost.

I hope the judge can see that.


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Ex has been quiet since court date. He has not even been bad mouthing me with the kids like he normally does after such things.

I am again dark with him. His behavior has been ridiculous.


Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11

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