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dont think -- just go forward.. dont ..you know the mind game..and t he probably DOES miss YOU just for right now..does not want to be married. I AM SURE that after all of those years together they do remember good... even we do smile

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Trusting, I think that unlike me, you have had some sense of discord and unhappiness that your X is experiencing.

I am sure he does miss you.

You don't have to consider restoring the relationship to be compassionate.


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Well the court date is set for Thursday. It will probably be thrown out due to ex not serving me properly. Ex will have to reschedule to get the child support reduced.

Ex told the kids that he will not be spending Thanksgiving with them. This is his holiday with the kids. He and OW did not get invited to any of his family members' get togethers. They would have gone over to his stepmother's usually but she died this past July in a motorcycle accident. Ex refused to pay for my son's air plane ticket to come home for thanksgiving. I bought him the ticket last night. Ex seems to be withdrawing more and more.


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Seems you and I both have more madness to contain with on Thursday. My XH is getting married.


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they are insane!! money to go on trips - but no money to bring son home!! what an A**!!

Selfishnes..


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It is insane Cagz. Thank god I am a good saver.

Oh yeah, I forgot to mention, OW moved in to ex's house.
Makes me sick, but nothing I did not expect. Good example, they are.


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Well, that may hasten the demise of things.

On the other hand, I thought that and two and a half years later, they are still going strong.


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Trusting - remember when Bimbo #1ish lived with my x? it was terrible hard for me.. and you are right on.. GREAT example.

I guess we just need to realize that who we loved is not who they are.. and that is "suppose" to help.

I am angry today.. don't like being angry.


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Court is tomorrow.
Got home late from work tonight. Walked in the house, got my pajamas on and about 15 minutes later ex was ringing the doorbell like mad. I of course did not answer, he scares me now. Weird......


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what happened??


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