Did you check with the formal separation agreement that someone mentioned works in Texas. If it does, you could stipulate that the kids aren't to be exposed to OP, and especially no overnight visitors while the kids are there. That stipulation seems to pretty common here in the midwest.
I didn't get a chance yet to check. But I will be looking into it.
I think last night went rather well considering everything though which I am happy about.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I think it was for the kids sake. D11 was pushing hard for family time during the holidays.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I had a good time tonight. I went out to the country and western dance club with friends. I didn't leave until after 1am. Tomorrow there is a dance seminar I am thinking about going to.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I continue to detach more and more with each passing day. My weekend was good. I was out til 2am Friday and Saturday night with dance friends. I had a great time. I am also keeping up with my weight lifting and continuing to dramatically change my diet. A lot of fish and veggies now. I am getting much healthier in many ways.
I have my girls back tonight. They went and worked out with me tonight so that was fun. We did some shopping this afternoon.
D11 got herself some chocolate coffee. She has started drinking it now. I couldn't believe it. So we bought a coffee maker and coffee grinder and cremes and sweet n low. She is very excited about making her cup of coffee in the morning. I'm looking forward to seeing what this tastes like also. I have recently just started drinking coffee again. It helps perk me up in the mornings.
D11 and D7 went to the state fair yesterday with their grandma and mom. W sent me a pic of her and the girls there yesterday. That was nice of her. Shocked me. I texted back saying thank you and I love the picture.
While I have my own beliefs, opinions, etc about marriage, family etc, I am still working on me and doing quite well I think.
I am establishing pretty good friendships and enjoying other people more and more.
D11 said a couple of things tonight that concerned me a bit, but her C appointment is Tuesday.
She said that when she tries to talk about me to her grandma that her grandma tells her "Lets not talk about him". That bothers D11. Then D11 told me that W told her that she does care very deeply about our M. Then D11 told me that if she did, she would be actually trying to work on it. D11 said she was also frusturated because she and D7 got into it again and she asked her mom if she could stay there while D7 was with me. Her mom told her no because she has plans and Tuesday is her only free night. This really bothered D11 that her mom appeared in her eyes to be to busy for her.
So I will be explaining all of this to the C on Tuesday so she can help D11 cope better with things.
Anyways, thats about it for tonight.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I made it to work with only about an hour of sleep. Lots of coffee this morning.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Ah, Kevin, I've been reading along and I thought you've really been trying. Good for you!
I hate a sleepless night, perhaps tonight you'll sleep great. I, on occasion, have taken 12 mg of Benedryl to sleep better when needed.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
I slept better last night. But I think I have a cold now. Ugg...
Yes, I am doing better. I am DBing much more now.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
