Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
T not sure what a 'homecoming' is but I too have had STBXH turn up with OW. However in my case it was right at the beginning. He used to bring her to S17s rugby matches. Things got so bad that in the end S17 just stopped playing. It's such a shame b/c he had potential to do really well in this sport. S17 hated that his dad brought OW for two reasons:
1) Prior to him leaving me it had been thier time together. I used to turn up to watch the match but H and S17 went training together first. After OW turned up on scene H stopped the training bit.
2) It tore S17 apart to see me so upset. Given that this was within weeks of H leaving me I think anyone in their right mind could see this as a bad thing.
What strikes me about your XH is that he seems to be doing everything in a reverse order to everyone elses WAS
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I mean normally all this spewing comes at the beginning and not normally post D. I'm a big believer that love and hate are the opposite ends of the same emotion. I just don't think your XH has come to terms with that yet.
Watch and wait T. Watch and wait.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
I took a needed break from the MLC drama. I have been doing some deep thinking about everything. A little bit sad this week because my ex and bimbo took the baby to Disney. We were just there at the end of August. I can't imagine what my baby thinks of all of that. Ex's behavior has been weird lately. Lots more than normal button pushing. He wants a reaction from me. After you go through this for so long you become numb. I'm numb. He can't even come close to pushing my buttons.
Other than that I feel I am really detaching. I no longer think about ex every minute. Now it is maybe 2-4 times a day. I have made so much progress in my life since this has happened. I can't imagine ex coming back and even tolerating the new me. I think it would just threaten his very weak ego.
These guys are truly broken. Only God can repair mine.
Thinking of all of you
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I can't imagine ex coming back and even tolerating the new me.
You have used this very painful experience to grow whilst your XH has just floundered (like mine). Be good to yourself. I know you think of him less but I was still surprised to see you put that you think of him 2-4 times a day.
Have you asked yourself if you do still want him back?
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
I feel the same so much has happened we have all changed how can we even describe our xh I dont really know what happened to him he seems so different not much thoughts attached to his choices I dont see mine coming back, showing regret, or being anywhere close to a good father..like he was still baffles me peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
