I am Don Quixote

[frank_D]

Your X has not had the chance to feel what it is like to be divorced. It is grossly unfair to be kept in the wings.

Agreed. She is being deprived of these feelings by Sleeper.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Hope it pays well, seems like a shi tty gig to me.

[sleeper]

...seems like a shi tty gig to me.

It is. But I refuse to accept the status quo. My children deserve better than this. Years ago I failed them and my wife.

Will I succeed? Who knows?

It's not all roses on her end. I served up a great deal of cake over the past couple of years but I have put her on a diet.

I know I may be the world's biggest fool.

[*KS*Chick*]

Sleeper - if you owe your kids, then do things for them and with them. Make THEM your focus, not your ex-wife and her new husband......just seems really wrong and unhealthy.

[sleeper]

...just seems wrong and unhealthy.

This is the healthiest I've been in a long time.

I know the sitch with X isn't what it should be however I and therefore the sitch am moving in the right direction.

I'm not focused on her like I once was.

I don't think of OMH at all.

His place or lack thereof in my mind as a non-persona is what is probably causing some of you to disagree with my outlook.

[Fallgirl]

Wow! Just catchin` up with you from your previous thread...

How ARE your kids?

You sure do seem to have a need for the dramatic. Yup, this DB world is a crazy place but priority Numero 1 HAS to be the kids.

Sleeper, you CAN have a great relationship with a woman. Right now, your W just seems to have a need to bleed you dry-and you seem to have a need to let her.

Meanwhile, where are the kids? Caught in a whole reality show?

This place can drive one crazy...I know...but it CAN get better than this.

Mind your LF too. She deserves someone who can be more committed.

[Kettricken]

Facts gleaned from your posts on this thread:

In your posts on this thread (not counting the initial post which consisted only of lyrics), there are --

15 posts total.

9 of those posts reference OM directly (I didn't even include the indirect references, as to your wife's remarriage, etc). One post was devoted entirely to the OM.

Hmmmmmmm.

[sleeper]

...9 of those posts reference OM directly...

Wow that hit me, "Out of Left Field", Percy Sledge

"When least expected..."

So I'm overtly acknowledging what I'm subconsciously denying or unaware of?

I never said he didn't exist.

[frank_D]

I never said he didn't exist.

You implied it.

[sleeper]

Ok guys, help me see the lesson I need to learn here.

When this guy basically moved into my house and started boinking who was then my wife at bomb I decided he wasn't really the problem. My X, me and our R was the problem. For a while I listed OM (now H) as "irrelevant" on my profile.

It's not like I don't know he exists. X approached me over a year ago, before they were engaged and encouraged me to be more friendly with OM saying she wanted him and me to be more friendly to one another (it's a fine madness). I told her, "I don't think OM and I will ever be best buds."

It goes both ways. This summer at DS's bday party he didn't say a word to me as if I wasn't there so I accomodated him. We do speak to each other when necessary. I've called his cell when I couldn't reach X on her phone concerning the kids.

Have I failed OP 101?