T- won't it be a great day when we can look in the mirror and say... I made it. God gave me strength and I really AM better today then I was even with X. (EVEN if we are WITH them...) does that make sense?
I feel change within me... it is wierd. Just new strength and self confidence that wasn't there before. Just wierd.
I understand this statement. After getting amrried when I was 16 and beiing with the same man for 29 years - he has left me and I am scared to death but know that through this I will grow and discover a whole new side of me. it terrifies me. I do still want him in my life though.
ME 45 Husband 47 Married 29 yrs D 28 D 23 S 26 IDLYA -MLC- 7-25-09 Wants Divorce 8-18-09 Moved to another state W/OW
Ex called me at work and left a message on how he would like to keep the baby an extra day. Now, the baby is adopted and during the beginning of the mid life crisis he told me about how much he did not want her and what a pain in the grass she would be. So he is definitely singing a different tune. I texted him back (because I am done speaking with him because he is abusive) and told him no, that I had plans with her. He texted me back, "thank you so much for getting back with me". So now he is being unusually nice.........
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
T, I wouldn't trust him....usually when they are this way, the other shoe is about to drop.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I do feel that something is up. Maybe he married the OW or is living with her now. Something is going on. I know they are looking for homes together.
Last night I checked the caller ID and he had called twice. Something is up...
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
T something may well be up but from my experience it's better not to go looking for it. I'm sure if he married OW he would have wanted your kids there (if only to ensure that you got to hear all about it). It's probably all to do with the papers he wanted you to sign.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Yes, that is true. He probably has not given up in getting what he wants with the child support.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
T, I would sit back and watch from afar. He will eventually tell you what is on his mind. I suspect he's gotten himself in a pinch money wise and is trying a different approach to getting you to sign the papers.
I seriously doubt he's married the ow. If he had, you would have heard about it by now.
Just know that we are all here for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
