Play House

[kat727]

oh, I think it is jealousy otherwise he wouldn't have kept putting "boyfriend" out there. I think you handled the phone the right way. You are doing so well and I am happy for you.

kat

[Matilda2]

(((YOYO)))

Can you keep the company phone just to communicate with your STBX? That way he wouldn't have your new phone number.

It's too bad that things may get worse before they get better. You sound healthy and happy,though, and you know your daughters know which parent they can trust!

[fightingirish]

ahhhhhh he's made his bed, now he must lie in it!! This is truly hysterical. He is such a dunce... I actually like the fact that you have a new number. I would not give him it. If you have a landline, just keep it at that. Your children are grown and there is no reason for him to have your cell phone number.

I do think he is jealous, and I think he's chomping at the bit that you are interested in someone, and its not him!!

Love it love it!!

[Yoyowife]

Sooo...the alien stbxh called tonight to find out if I had switched cell phone over yet. I told him I had taken care of that on Monday. I'm thinking to myself, why didn't he just ask one of our daughters! He then asked the most brilliant question of all..."Do the girls have your number?" I should have said, "Oh no, that phone number is only for my 'boyfriend' He was nice this time. I swear he is Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde....

[Sara]

Yes, I have read the book. I dread when Mr. Hyde shows up. I'm surprised that he is taking this so well. This volcano is going to explode.

[Yoyowife]

Everyone on the boards has always said,"When it's time to let go, you will know." Of course lots of people in the "real" world told me long before I made my decision that I needed to let go, but I wasn't ready. I think perhaps if I I had been strong enough to let go a long time ago, my situation might have worked out differently. I let him string me along for way too long. I let him cake eat. Something I'm not proud of, but true.

As you all know I have made the decision I was ready to let go a while back. During DD18's senior year I was leaning heavily towards that decision, but I wanted to let her get all of her "senior" events out of the way and not ruin her year. As soon as she graduated, I was in my lawyers office the next week.

Today one of our substitues that I have not seen probably since April of last spring stopped by my room to chat. She knew what has been going on in my life. She asked me how I was doing? I told her I was good. She said I can really tell that you are doing well. Did you and your H work things out? I told her no, that I had finally let go. She said she could tell I was much happier. Funny thing one of my other co-teachers told me about two weeks ago that she noticed how happy I had seemed lately. So I guess my actions really show it.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, that even if the marriage doesn't work out, we all can be happy and comfortable, but we have to do it at our own pace.

[kat727]

I agree and I am so glad that you are happy. I had a situation a couple weeks ago when my dad felt he needed to talk to me. It is the fact that I am a pack rat(I come by it honestly) and he was telling me get a move on and start letting go. It has been two years afterall!

I am proud that I can say yes Dad you are right. I hold on to things to some degree to build a wall and keep people from getting to close when I am hurt. You wanted me to be done the second that I knew he filed but you have to realize that I am not you. I had to get there on my own and I did. I also had to deal with the bankruptcy which just closed in July. I know you are trying to help and I will get there, I am just not totally ready to let go and let people physically into my life.

One, I never would have even said that to my Dad before all this happened and two, I had a self realization. Now I can start to let go of some of the stuff.

Sorry for the hijack.

kat

[Yoyowife]

Kat,
Hijack away!

[Yoyowife]

Hope everyone had a nice long weekend. DD18 came home from college this weeekend. I enjoyed having her around the house immensely. Friday night she insisted I go to dinner with her and a friend. I had already changed into shorts and a tee, I told her to go ahead and just go with her friend. She laid the guilt trip on me about not wanting to go to dinner with my daughter. Needless to say I changed and went. LOL

I saw Mr. A three times during the long weekend. He came over for dinner tonight. First time I have introduced him to anyone. DD18 had already left for college. DD21 said he was a cute older guy and nice. I'm not sure whether Mr. A will take that as a compliment or insult. LOL He's just six years older than me, so I guess she's trying to say I'm old too! I just think he's cute period.

Oh by the way, DD21 said Mr. A is better looking than her dad because he has real hair instead of a toupee!

[Yoyowife]

Mr. A came over last night and hung some blinds for me. Afterwards he helped DD21 with her accounting homework. I bet not many students in her class have a tutor that is an actual accountant.

STBX got upset with DD18 Monday when she was leaving to go back to college. He wanted her to come by and see him before she left. She was already waiting for a friend in a parking lot who was going to follow her to her college, and then head about 40 minutes north to his college when her dad called. STBXH was out of town all weekend with the OW and her son at the lake. He did not call her until 3:00 to ask her to come by. I'm assuming he had just got back in town. If seeing her was a priority he should have stayed in town or called to see what time she was leaving so he could have been back in time.

DD21 got upset with him Sat. because he told her she could take a friend to the Razorback game about 2 weeks ago, but then that morning he calls and says he gave the 2 extra tickets to OW's kids. It worked out okay, because youngest DD18 didn't want to go so she gave up her ticket. DD18 is very social, she just wanted to tailgate and see her friends that are different colleges. She is my social butterfly. LOL

I hate that my daughters have to put up with his nonsense, but so glad I don't! It's so nice not have to put up with his mood swings. I did take the high road and tell them no matter what, he is their dad, they may not like him all the time, but they will always love him and to remember that. DD21 said it was very hard to like him most of the time.

When Mr. A was over here last night, I bet they talked more in one night than she does to her dad in a week. Mr. A continues to look better all the time.