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Ahhhhh. I see. I can understand your feeling perfectly. Once that trust is breached, it can be near to impossible to get back.


Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..

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Gotcha BBJ...at the risk of repeating myself and being called ridiculous or worse: I agree with your pastor, if Dan has not been sexually active with you during the last X months, he IS getting it somewhere else. This is how most men and some women are wired. So do not wait for proof BBJ. There is no doubt in my mind that 95% of WASs are getting it elsewhere. The problem is that we always think we fall into the 5%.

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Please - how childish can he get? Part of me says give the sarcasm right back and tell him "it's okay as long as the sex addict leaves his toys at home." Another part says ignore it until he starts communicating like a grown responsible adult.

I'd probably just give him a one word answer either yes or no. Sorry you are having deal with this kind of crap.

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I wanted to reply "Well they say the first step to healing is admitting you have a problem" but I didn't.......


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Still trying to make him "see the light"? Hey sis, we must be really related smile
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I don't want the man I married to wind up in Hell and to ruin his relationship with his children. But I cannot save him so instead for my own protection I have to remove myself from him and limit his access to me.


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Bbj, I hope you are calm. I am with you 100%. We'll do this together...
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OK I had replied to his ? re. the air show telling him that Nathan is having his party with my family that day (sun).

He has sent 2 more msgs first asking if he could take him to air show Saturday and then asking me what time my family's benefit is Sat night (1 aunt brain tumor 1 uncle cancer so having fundraiser).

I have not replied. Do I ignore, reply a short answer of the time of the benefit, or do I tell him to stop contacting me because I need some space from him?


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He has sent more texts today than he has since I don't know when. And after he said "f you" to me last night, twice, I have no desire to communicate with him whatsoever.

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Then dont. Why does he want the time for you family's event? Planing to attend or to babysit for you? If he will babysit give him the time. If not, do as you feel like :stay quiet.
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