I've been in the infidelity forum for over two years. Wow, that's a long time. I am in the process of divorce now. I filed in June 2009. He filed in June 2007, but dismissed it in July 2008 saying we were going to work things out. To summarize my sitch. H left in on Oct. 2006. He denied having OW, but of course there was one. It was his secretary. What a cliche!
He played both of us for way too long, he would tell me he was going to end it with her, but he never would. I told him that until she was out of the office, we couldn't move forward. I compared his addiction to her as an alcoholic having a drink in front of him daily. I finally said enough is enough and filed. They continue to be involved. I have no hope or want of reconciliation.
I have met a wonderful man about a month ago. I'm not sure where it will go, but I am enjoying being treated with respect. He is smart, funny, and a gentleman. He still is of the old schol that a gentleman opens doors and even car doors for a lady.
LIfe does get much better. It took me a long time to see that, but it's so nice to be off of the egsshells!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Whoopie!! I am first but not needing a drink, just happy that I get to be the first to welcome you here. I may just jump ship too since it doesn't look as if my thread will ever lock!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I know I haven't posted or emailed much lately.....I am troubled in myself. Not my marriage, but I am having trouble with my first daughter going to university, (yep she got the grades to go where she wanted), and I find the up and coming change hard to deal with. I kind if feel redundant .
I shall try and be a better friend and post more soon, but I just wanted you to know how glad I am that you are moving on.
((((((((hugs))))))))
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Gee who would have thought that moving your thread was so huge? I suppose it is letting go of who you were so you can become who you are now meant to be.
I didn't feel it until I did it. We didn't go through stages just the big leap. Glad we are here.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Good Morning Friends, It's amazing the wonderful friends I have made on here through this journey. Thanks for the warm welcome over here.
Theo and Saffie, wonderful to hear from you both. Didn't we have nice little chats the summer of '07? Seems like a lifetime ago, doesn't it? We certainly had some funny and interesting conversations. It's time for updates from you both, don't let me down! Saffie, I totally understand how hard it is letting go of your babies. I'm certainly missing my baby while she is at college.
Kat, I think we are where we belong, don't you?
I have a funny story to relate about DD18 who has been at college for a week and half now. Last week was such a busy week for me with school starting back and meetings at night (real meetings, not Mr. A meetings, LOL). Everytime she called it seemed like I was busy and couldn't really talk. Finally, one night she called and said, "Mom, are you mad at me? It seems like everytime I call, you are too busy to talk to me." I assured her I wasn't mad at her and missed her very much, but had been so busy. I think it's usually the other way around that the parent is trying to get ahold of the college student. LOL I did drive up to see her Saturday and take her some things she needed from home and do a little shopping.
Last night DD21 and I went to dinner and shopping. It seems that the past few weeks has been about getting DD18 ready for college, I wanted to spend some alone quality time with DD21. Mr. A asked me to pick him up a couple of shirts, so he is already letting me pick out his clothes. LOL At least I know he will look nice.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
NC, I just wonder what happened to Delia, remember her? She certainly kept us all entertained. LOL Let's not forget roadkill, reversed skunk, ugly arse boots, and of course whips. LOL
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
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