Yup. Just DONT put it "forward" into your mouth...
I have learned my lesson on that one.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I'll hold you to that. We all make mistakes... some MORE then others. Some are "addicted" to making mistakes and getting attention for them. The nice thing about it is we can stop making them at any time...
Just be nice and pleasant. Act like you have everything going for you.... Not a care in the world.
Just a bit of a highlight... W did not refile for D this week.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
DW, how are things going for you? How is your family holding up?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I think I might buy a cheap grill and start grilling out. D7 wants me to. I could do it tonight.
W told me she is going to be going to look at vehicles tonight. I expect I will be signing over the title tonight or tomorrow so she can get her vehicle.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Probably remind yourself hourly, and every 5 min when you are with her. Stop asking her anything about whether she'll file, which she obviously cannot afford to do now, or any questions about her including how she is or how she feels, unless she is on the ground clutching her chest. She is on her own PER HER WISHES and does NOT want you in her life. Period. If you continue to hound her, emotionally or mentally following her around like a puppy as you have been, or lashing out and snapping at her when you get too frustrated b/c your sole focus on her IS frustrating, (it's hard as heck for us to watch), but if you keep this up much longer, you will always be in a committed relationship ALONE, whether she files this month or in a year. That's it K4. You are blowing it in every way you can. To me, the biggest challenge I have even posting here, is watching how you let yourself AND your daughters down, again.
Your ONLY concerns now are your girls, your job, your growth as a man (GAL) and your recovery. You should NOT to be talking to her OR US about her wishes, her finances, her dating, her problems, her sleeping with OM, or not or what that might mean, or her morals, or your view of her thoughts or your thoughts about her plans, or your view of her morals (work on YOURS and speak NOT of others, you know "the splinter and the plank"??). And No more self righteous preaching, please, you have wasted space and time and energy that should have gone to the kids and your recovery.
How is the c going for your d's? How is THAT GOING?? Please don't ignore that question. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
W is not agreeing to the C right now. I was trying to get her to do it with me for the kids. But she doesn't feel that she has the money right now.
So I guess I am on my own to take care of it. I suppose that will look better to a judge.
My BIL is recommending me for a job at his company that would pay more, be permanent with benefits, and allow me to work from home. That would help out when the kids are sick. I could also pick up the kids after school on my weeks and not have to pay for after care. He told me to get my resume to him so I will do that tonight. It would be great to get that job.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Once and for all -- get those girls in counseling. We're sick and tired of you making excuses. This has been going for MONTHS and is a SERIOUS issue regarding your DAUGHTERS.
You're the one getting all the advice needed as far as getting them help, and you don't do it.
And if you do it on your own, so be it. It's the right thing to do, and not because it would look good to a judge. At this point, if any judge granted you sole custody of your girls, that would be a grave mistake. You are not capable of being the primary caregiver.
I just hope you can live with yourself if it turns out that their emotional and mental well being suffers -- because that's all on you, my friend. Especially with your 11 year old starting middle school, which is he!! on girls w/no family issues. Wake up Kevin -- if you can't get this done, there's no hope left for you.
And thank you for inquiring about my BIL. He lapsed into a coma last night, and it won't be long. Everyone is holding up. I'm just happy to be able to spend so much time all of them.
We all make mistakes... some MORE then others. Some are "addicted" to making mistakes and getting attention for them. The nice thing about it is we can stop making them at any time...