Ali, I know this has been a crazy couple of weeks for you. Just break it down as much as you can and deal with it bit by bit. I am sure that it is so easy to get overwhelmed and also try to get all of your answers at once, but slow down. There isn't a rush. Take it as you can handle it.
I am really proud of how far you have come. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Good job in stepping away a bit. It helped to refocus you and calm you down. Well done. Keep remembering that tactic and you'll be able to get through this in due time.
There are going to be bumps in the road. I think that before it is all said and done you will both have to fight through resentments you are carrying for things that happened in the past. And I think it will be better to get them out than to maintain a room in the house for the elephants.
It still worries me that he blames you for getting sick-- what happens when you get sick again, which you inevitably will if you guys end up staying together until you're old and farty? Don't get me wrong-- you're doing a great job and things are looking good-- i'm just saying you will need reassurance from him on this point sometime after you're further along in the piecing process.
Bleugh on finding the photos- remember when I found a apicture of the aubergine last year and I was horrified? It must have been a million times worse finding all those ones on BF's camera. Ick.
I'm so glad he's making an effort with you, and talking to you. It's such a good sign and so good that he's reassuring you about how much he loves you. It makes me feel all nice inside!
Hi Ali, hope you are having a wonderful time.