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Yes you are doing well
Be grateful, your X choses NOT tyo swear with the kids there
Mine cant stop himself at this point
I guess the upcoming possible M of my x and OW has gotten him crazier
hang in
one day we will all look back, and be grateful for the numerous gifts we have received from out journey
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hopefully our X's will have turned a corner for their own highest growth
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i just posted this on sleeps thread....but i heard a pastor talking last weke on the radio...and he summed up sin this way thought it was a good size up of sin

SIN - TAKES YOU FARTHER THAN YOU WANTED TO GO
SIN- HOLDS YOU LONGER THAN YOU WANTED TO STAY
SIN - COST YOU MORE THAN YOU WANTED TO PAY

YOUR HUSBAND IS EXPERIENCING THE BITE OF TEMPTATION...THAT CANDY COATED APPLE WAS POSION INSIDE AND HE IS NOT TO HAPPY...... SO VERY SAD ....AND WHAT ONE PERSONS SIN DOES TO OTHERS....ITS PRETTY DEVASTING...

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Trusting, I think I would send a followup text saying that you will not speak with him if he is going to rant and rave at you. Then he cannot say you are being mean ol Trusting.

I say this because I think that it would be the best stance for me to take with H's temper tantrums.

That or to hand him a pacifier.


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Thanks guys for your support. It has been a very rough week for me. Ex called my daughter this morning to take her to an air show. This is not his day or week, but he will try to push my buttons because I did not sign the papers. Fortunately, we had plans and she told him so. One of his threats was that he will make my life miserable since I did not sign the papers...... He is trying.


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Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
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Trusting - ANY and I mean ANY threats etc document. You know this part... watch out for you.. Even if he sends you TEXT that are threatenign.. SAVE THEM !! WHY??? TO protect yourself.

sorry things have gotten so terrible..i really mean it.. i am so very sorry.


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Our spouses are aloke in some ways
They both still have original ow
MY x is spewing more than before
I guess they are not happy
sad thibg is thye still put the blame on us
as if we ever did anything wrong
all this hard work and change have gone unnoticed by the mlcer
as they are so absorbed with themselves repalying and living out their childhood and getting nowhere but further down
thanks grace that was a great post
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My ex's anger and hate is at an extreme. I am actually afraid of him. I guess that tells me a lot. However, I have decided that I will not tolerate disrespect, abuse or inappropriate raging any longer. If that means going absolutely no contact, than so be it.


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sad thibg is thye still put the blame on us


This is so true. When my STBXH finally hits rock bottom I'm fully expecting him to blame me for the fact that OW got pregnant wink


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yeah --- the blame part is really weird --

and all their twisted thinking --- u still go - who r u??? in your head .....

its seeing the work of the deceiver right beofre our eyes...

side note : my x is still with ow - bomb 2005 - she was hiddend for a long time --- at first i thought she was this drop dead georgeous thing....then i met her...and was in shock --that i was left for her --- not so pretty --- seemed very plain and very very skinny...no figure skinny....and now im like wow they are still together and u think back on what u thought u had with this person......so weird....

so much for the average affair 6- 18 months --- do u remember thiking you couldnt out last that??? I do now im like ...thats nothing...and then I look at others...6, 7, 8 years later still the same.....make me pray : Lord show me your way...your will --

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Grace,

I love your sayings about sin. I want so much to send that to ex.
Maybe one day I will.

Yeah, about OW, they affair so low. Mine is a blonde bimbo, no common sense, spends like crazy, but fairly cute.

I never thought they would still be together also. They fight like crazy. My ex won't even let her live with him....... He is caught between a rock and a hard place. He is too proud to admit he is wrong, may never happen.


Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11

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