I'm so happy for you and you are giving me hope by reading your sitch. Would you be able to take the time and help me our a little? It would be greatly appreciated!
It has been 8 months today that he has been gone, and I don't know how to attach my threads on this message.
Lost41.. I say, follow your intuition. I had some doubters, here and not so much in RL, but I never doubted that we would get back together (only on NYEve, although it may have been hard to believe if you read some of my desperate posts!). I'm sorry I dont have time to read and post right now, I am preparing to get into college and my interview is tommorow, but I am glad it is giving you hope. My bf openly missed me and still cared, BUT, he wouldnt give me his address for months and never let me go to his house the whole time we were apart for 18 months.. and yet now, its like it was all just a bad dream. A VERY bad dream !
Jeff.. you were right, of course you were! You always said the same things consistently and you were right, it was like he 'lost his mind' for a while and was wrapped up in himself and his depression and now he is the other side of that, he cant explain it and hasnt any real concept of time and my suffering I think.
So last night I cried some silent tears in bed with him, its just so poignant sometimes that he is just HERE and its all normal. He pulled me closer and said, whats wrong, I can sense a vibe from you.. I swallowed my tears and managed "I just love you" (only the 2nd time I said it since May).. he laughed almost nervously and said sounding genuinely perplexed/wierded out, "Why is that though? Why do you love me?". The answer to that couldve taken all night and I was trying to hide my tears so I just managed "I just do".. he hugged me and said "I love you too" and we fell asleep like that with me still crying to myself!! Thats a 180.
I still get a little nervous, but he is paying me so many compliments. I felt a little anger today. He is being so loving now, I'm like.. HOW could you not even pick up the phone for 3 months/take another woman away for Christmas/not let me go to your house for 18 months/etc etc etc !!!! I just really need to talk to him. My Mum keeps telling me to WAIT, at least until I am moved back in with him, next week.
We were talking earlier about the move.. I must've sounding unsure as he said "It'll be good"...I said, it will?? He said "Yes! It will be good, I think so anyway!...allay your fears". Easy for him to say!!
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Thanks for answering me. But I guess our sitch is different, since mine has not contacted me in 2 months. I do want to get back together but I'm at a loss right now, since he obviously doesn't want anything to do with me or our daughter.
We have no phone number for him and he stopped calling her after our hearing on visitation. Maybe I should just give up....just venting....I love him but I can't make him love me or call me. Have NO control over what is going on right now between us....just wish that I did. Not to have control but just to be given the opportunity to speak to him.
Wow Ali! Things are going so well for you! I think you just need to keep following that keen intuition of yours. You are getting answers, and a lot sooner than many who have reconciled...I know I have read of some where it was a year before the bf/h shared as much as yours has! So I guess I would say not to push for too much too soon but hey if it were me I would have a million questions, too!
Sounds like you are doing so well. Very happy for you.
But for some of us, it's the only body part allowed to go there!
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
